Hello, my thoughts and life to unravel.
My wife asks my to do things, feels like sometimes she's telling me and just speaking from a place of anger and frustration and vents on me.
Yesterday morning every interaction is ad energy behind it and a shitty tone of voice from her.
I get she's tired fatigued and frustrated with me, having repeated conversations.
I do my best to own it without being a victim.
Make her feel acknowledged.
She will consistently say that I'm a problem that the way I speak to her is awful.
One of us me has to stop arguements in front of kids, so I mostly just try to acknowlegde and don't show my frustration and get angry with her.
But how do I manage a angry wife, yes I need to stop all the things that trigger her, I need to get results and get involved with home eding the kids so she doesnt feel its all on her.
There is a daily issue, she has bad nights sleep. Are plans go sideways, I need to not just engage and look after the kids in the morning I need to plan some home ed activity , but I find it hard after teaching sports , that when I finish @ 8 or 9pm to then engage my brain, my brain is craving just sit down chill out. But there's no time , the house work needs doing the business admin needs doing.
And to the point, if I ask her to do something, boom not a good response. The clothes I do most of washing, move my clothes and kids clothes back to storage.
But her clothes just build up in the conservatory she has mental block on sorting them, her wardrobe you can't even get into as the clothes are stacked in bags.
Yes I have issues to work on.
What do I do if my wife is reflecting on me, she see's all her flaws when interacting with me and gets angry with me.
She gets stressed with kids messing around, especially when she's setting up home ed activity, and i really appreicate her efforts but Im leaning on her.
Any thoughts welcome
