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How do you decompress in evenings?

NAS67334

I'm 38y old Aspie, have a job and two kids (3y neurotypical, 6y Aspie). Typically days are tiring due to work, but the really difficult part is evenings. When I come home, the kids run around screaming and fighting all the time, so I just get some food and drag time until the kids go to sleep at around 9pm. Typically by then I'm already exhausted due to sensory overload, so after putting them in bed just pour myself a glass of whiskey and spend the rest of evening randomly surfing web, with few more drinks during that. I have been doing this self-medication for last 10 years.
The whiskey helps in the evenings, I can really feel my brain releasing tension sip by sip, to go from like a tense muscle to a peaceful sea. But in the mornings I feel not well slept and hangover Disappointed I need to find an alternative evening decompression method.

Please tell how do YOU decompress during evenings?

  • great, thank you all!!

  • I usually have a rest in bed, with the curtains closed and lights off. Put on my sleepphones or my Bose noise cancelling headphones and then listen to music or an AMSR video on YouTube :)

  • I like to just lie in bed on my phone and talk to friends etc, it's very unproductive but at the end of the day allows me to relax

  • I have two year olds and we have just started a very rigid routine with them to get them in bed at a reasonable hour. After this I make sure that I have at least one job to complete, I have my own routine which helps immensely, I wash the pots and then do one other job before I sit and read or most recently read forum threads.

    Before the lockdown I used to sort out lunch for the next day for the family, I like to be organised and it really calmed me. 

    Nine is quite late for you to wait and get tone to yourself, especially after work. Is there any way if getting them in bed a little earlier?

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  • Walking works for me - in the countryside, around a pond, something like that