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I love that

I think they call that NASA 

Yes I know what you mean Plastic, it’s like learning from experience is difficult. Maybe we should all stop trying to fit in, join together as a kind of aspie tribe and separate ourselves from the NT world altogether. Now what would that look like lol? Be interesting to get all your thoughts on what it might be like 

I don't think such a book could help me - I'm pretty self-aware of all my aspie shortcomings.    Unfortunately, even though I totally understand how and why I behave the way I do, the programming is so deep that I automatically repeat the same behaviours.       I know it's wrong, but I can't help it.       I usually spot my awkwardness after the event.

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Yes I have felt that joining this community a few days ago. Reading posts that at last I can relate to. It’s been helpful to know I am not as alone with my aspie life as I thought I was  thanking you all 

It is interesting... and worrying... just how familiar a lot of autie's experiences are. I've felt that cold shiver as you recognise someone else's struggles.

The plus side though, is that should lead to compassion, which is the glue that builds our community.

There are some rule books available, written by autistics on how to survive in an NT world.  They make me cringe when I read them because theses people's experiences seem so familiar to me.

Thanks for the input Plectrum. You do, of course, make a valid point - in that each of us essentially needs to explore autism (and life) for ourselves. It was only more of a playful 'thought experiment' idea.

That being said, I find your experience fascinating. After being initially diagnosed later in life, I was truly astounded as to just how many books and resources there were for (ND) kids, and for the (NT) parents of (ND) children. Most of the books I read seemed to have some advice for 'struggling spouses' (treating them akin to 'victims'), if not dedicated books specifically on the subject of how to cope with us auties. Hell, I've even seen support groups for partners of ND's.

Whilst my post was half in playfulness, underneath it all, it was inspired by my own experience that there has been exceptionally few resources for late diagnosed autistic adults. 

As such, I just wondered if the community wished to impart any of it's hard-earned advice - maybe so the next late-diagnosed adult has at least some sort of road map, connection, and doesn't feel quite so... daunted...

(PS: I'm genuinely sorry to hear about your relationship problems. I can't even begin to imagine how difficult that must be for you both).

I wish I could say I had wisdom and Rules to a better life, but I have been living like a chameleon for many years. So to thrive, I have tried so desperately to fit in. To mimic and watch what they do and how they do it. It is exhausting though and I don't think it is quite what is what is needed to truly thrive. I look forward to reading your book and others wisdom. Thank you for posting this. It has filled me with hope for a new start.

...I noticed the original post has been deleted.  I was a bit worried, and since I had given some personal information in my reply, I felt unsafe and have deleted that too. I had felt good about taking part, but I need to feel safe.   No offence intended.