Is Isolation easier due to our Autism?

Don't know about anyone else but I always enjoyed my own company even as a child. Don't know if that's cos I never understood other kids or they usually ended up bullying me so playing with others was not enjoyable.

Did manage to have friends and go to college and work and stuff in my twenties but by thirties was suffering from severe burnout and really wanted my own space again, no social pressures to comply with 'normal' and just do my own thing so feel I'm really thriving in this 'pandemic' situation....  Had 2 months to myself don't have to be visited by people i really don't want to see but feel I have to  to comply with being seen as 'normal', cos now its more important that I'm not in contact with anyone who could give me covid19  (am in vulnerable group due to other medical issues thankfully!)

Glad I live rurally so I can slip out at 5am and have the fields/etc to myself t walk my dog and suddenly its perfectly acceptable to go out of your way to avoid someone coming the other way (not that I see anyone at that time) or to avoid going out at a time where more people would be about. Spend rest of day drawing, painting, playing video games and sitting in garden with the dog. Perfectly happy and no need for other humans.

Only problem I have is sunny weather bringing the neighbours and the noisy brats out so can't enjoy my garden at 'peak times' (when usually they'd be at school/work during the week) but finally decided on some noise cancelling headphones to solve that issue.

Dreading things going back to normal and 'social expectations' going back to normal so hoping this 'bubble' idea govt has takes off where you're limited to one or two households of close family which enables me to conveniently still avoid some social expectations whilst still been able to see close family for our birthdays over summer.

NT's are complaining of loneliness and boredom but I'm happiest I've been for a long while. Just wondered if other autistic's felt the same?  Obviously there's going to be some people who need other people as carers for physical/daily living tasks, but if you're autistic and live alone (and have done for years) do you find you're NOT experiencing self-isolation the same as NT's? 

or are you an autistic person who feels they need constant reassurance from NT's that what you're doing is acceptable and seen to be 'fitting in'?   ..and finding it difficult not having other people around you to give that constant reassurance? (ie through being at work daily).

Kit

Parents
  • I'm finding it a lot less stressful than the 'normal' world - largely down to the fact that socialising is stressful...

    - no eye contact

    - no meaningless pleasantries

    - no sensory overload due to noise/smell/touch/light

    I'm not looking forward this ending because I'm not keen to go back to 'how it was' plus I think I'm reverting to an 'undomesticated human' state (to reclaim a somewhat controversial phrase used in this article), so it'll be harder than before to 'put the mask back on'...

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  • I'm finding it a lot less stressful than the 'normal' world - largely down to the fact that socialising is stressful...

    - no eye contact

    - no meaningless pleasantries

    - no sensory overload due to noise/smell/touch/light

    I'm not looking forward this ending because I'm not keen to go back to 'how it was' plus I think I'm reverting to an 'undomesticated human' state (to reclaim a somewhat controversial phrase used in this article), so it'll be harder than before to 'put the mask back on'...

Children
  • Thats an interesting page, a few other articles on the side I'll have a read of later too. Thanks!

    I've no intention of going back to how it was, I'll just blame the menopause and coronavirus lockdown for turning me into an unsociable old woman and stay as I am now! ..lol!

    I never went to supermarkets anyway so have managed to get slots as I was already a loyal customer for several years. Initially when everyone went mad panic buying it was a while before I could get a slot but things seem to be calming down. I have noticed they often only have very basics, couldn't even get marmalade last time! As I usually shopped at Ocado I like my more luxurious brands for somethings!

    I always get stuff delivered that I need for the house etc and things like that I've struggled to get delivered. (I needed a new mop bucket and some grass seeds for the garden, normally Ocado has them in stock) but I guess they are classing these as 'non-essentials'  Even tried to get the grass seeds off ebay but seller messaged me to say sorry she was struggling to get them from the warehouse so I ended up with a refund, when things do arrive they are now taking 1-2 weeks to turn up rather than 1-2 days!