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Girls not replying

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I am autistic and I have lived through a period of my life where I was not mingling with girls when I started secondary school as it was an all boys school in the middle of the countryside. The opportunity came when I started using social media and when a girls school from nearby came to visit on a social day when I started my GCSEs. Although I had a bit of luck they did not reply to my messages coming to the point where they disconnected me on social media. Although things have improved it does come to a point where a girl has interest in me and starts having convos with me but then she stops replying and sometimes removes/blocks me on texts/social media. I'm not convinced she is busy or has a lot of other unread messages but it would like to know why they lose interest in me faster than the click of a switch? Its heartbreaking when she loses interest in you for no reason whatsoever.

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  • It’s hard to say why but if there is a trend, maybe look for what triggers this in them. For example it might be that you are too forthcoming or The flip side of this is maybe you are too reserved, if you can work out the trigger you can put into place a plan. When you are chatting with guys socially do you get the same problem or are they more chatty with you? I’m trying to figure if the issue is with conversation or gender. 

  • in reply to Anthony

    Anthony is exactly right.

    I have spent a lot of time chatting to girls online, on dating etc and meeting them and I understand how you feel, I have also experienced the random "ghosting" as well as being blocked, some times for no apparent reason.

    Firstly most girls are inundated with message like Plastic mentioned, there is always a higher male to female ratio. For example in the town I used to live in there would typically be 5x as many guys as girls online on dating sites in my town.

    Also like Anthony mentioned conversations can die down if you come across as too "needy" (messaging them too often or intensely) as well as too "dry" (small chat not really going anywhere), this is from my experience as well as what I have read.

    I do not often have opportunities to meet girls through real life so dating sites is where I have met the majority from. Sometimes it is difficult to find anyone suitable to meet for many months on end.

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  • in reply to Anthony

    Anthony is exactly right.

    I have spent a lot of time chatting to girls online, on dating etc and meeting them and I understand how you feel, I have also experienced the random "ghosting" as well as being blocked, some times for no apparent reason.

    Firstly most girls are inundated with message like Plastic mentioned, there is always a higher male to female ratio. For example in the town I used to live in there would typically be 5x as many guys as girls online on dating sites in my town.

    Also like Anthony mentioned conversations can die down if you come across as too "needy" (messaging them too often or intensely) as well as too "dry" (small chat not really going anywhere), this is from my experience as well as what I have read.

    I do not often have opportunities to meet girls through real life so dating sites is where I have met the majority from. Sometimes it is difficult to find anyone suitable to meet for many months on end.

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