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Girls not replying

NAS66711

I am autistic and I have lived through a period of my life where I was not mingling with girls when I started secondary school as it was an all boys school in the middle of the countryside. The opportunity came when I started using social media and when a girls school from nearby came to visit on a social day when I started my GCSEs. Although I had a bit of luck they did not reply to my messages coming to the point where they disconnected me on social media. Although things have improved it does come to a point where a girl has interest in me and starts having convos with me but then she stops replying and sometimes removes/blocks me on texts/social media. I'm not convinced she is busy or has a lot of other unread messages but it would like to know why they lose interest in me faster than the click of a switch? Its heartbreaking when she loses interest in you for no reason whatsoever.

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  • It’s hard to say why but if there is a trend, maybe look for what triggers this in them. For example it might be that you are too forthcoming or The flip side of this is maybe you are too reserved, if you can work out the trigger you can put into place a plan. When you are chatting with guys socially do you get the same problem or are they more chatty with you? I’m trying to figure if the issue is with conversation or gender. 

  • in reply to Anthony

    If I know them well then I'll take it as a yes but even if its the same situation with girls there comes a point when they just don't reply. Guys tend to be more chatty with me trouble is the majority of my friends are guys.

  • in reply to NAS66711

    Hmmmm that’s a tricky one, the fact that things work well when chatting with guys implies it’s not generic conversational issue. Have you noticed at what point you are ignored? Like is it after you say something in particular or talk about a different topic? By the way if it’s something you’d rather not discuss openly on a public forum you are welcome to send me a message. But yeah I think finding what triggers people to ignore/ block you is key. 

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  • in reply to NAS66711

    Hmmmm that’s a tricky one, the fact that things work well when chatting with guys implies it’s not generic conversational issue. Have you noticed at what point you are ignored? Like is it after you say something in particular or talk about a different topic? By the way if it’s something you’d rather not discuss openly on a public forum you are welcome to send me a message. But yeah I think finding what triggers people to ignore/ block you is key. 

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