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Girls not replying

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I am autistic and I have lived through a period of my life where I was not mingling with girls when I started secondary school as it was an all boys school in the middle of the countryside. The opportunity came when I started using social media and when a girls school from nearby came to visit on a social day when I started my GCSEs. Although I had a bit of luck they did not reply to my messages coming to the point where they disconnected me on social media. Although things have improved it does come to a point where a girl has interest in me and starts having convos with me but then she stops replying and sometimes removes/blocks me on texts/social media. I'm not convinced she is busy or has a lot of other unread messages but it would like to know why they lose interest in me faster than the click of a switch? Its heartbreaking when she loses interest in you for no reason whatsoever.

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  • Social media is not a good place to try to chat people up - most girls are inundated with messages from D-bags so they get very cynical.       A big problem are the guys who won't take no for an answer - so it's easier to just not reply to the vast majority of messages.        Unfortunately, even if you're a nice person, you get lumped in with all the D-bags.

    Meeting people in real life is easier - especially in a group activity so there's no pressure for you to perform - let people get to know the real you and see where it goes.       One to one meetings are very high pressure and it can be make or break in the first 5 seconds.

    It's probably worth joining groups you're interested in or something like Meetup.com to get out and meet people - then see what happens.

    Good luck  Smiley 

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  • Social media is not a good place to try to chat people up - most girls are inundated with messages from D-bags so they get very cynical.       A big problem are the guys who won't take no for an answer - so it's easier to just not reply to the vast majority of messages.        Unfortunately, even if you're a nice person, you get lumped in with all the D-bags.

    Meeting people in real life is easier - especially in a group activity so there's no pressure for you to perform - let people get to know the real you and see where it goes.       One to one meetings are very high pressure and it can be make or break in the first 5 seconds.

    It's probably worth joining groups you're interested in or something like Meetup.com to get out and meet people - then see what happens.

    Good luck  Smiley 

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