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Aspie woman feeling bullied

RS72

Hi

I am new here and wanted to see if anyone else has had issues with being taken advantage of or bullied as an adult? I feel ok most of the time but in an argument I feel easily bullied when my brain gets very 'over heated'. Anyone feel like this? 
me that I am an easy target.

For example, I have issues with my landlady (who is a barrister and very quick to manipulate information to suit her agenda) so whenever I report an issue or repair work at the property where I live, she makes up allegations that I have done the damage and she repeats it over and over until I almost believe it to be true. In her last letter she has tried to use my Asperger's as a way to get me to move out. (I had told her when I moved in that I like to be organised so can she send me a list of things that needed doing in the property - jokingly telling her I was Asperger's). She's now saying that due to my Asperger's I panic about the work needed in her victorian house as it's too old for me and I should live in a flat as I can't cope with things that are normal to others (blocked drains, broken stairs, dripping taps - which I think are normal things to complain about - I love the old style house but not the fact it's been left in such a poor condition for me to live in).

How do you all feel about this? Is it common to feel bullied like this as an Asperger's ASD1 type ? I was diagnosed very late in life so it's been a steep learning curve. I've come here as I'm constantly misunderstood and it feels lonely.

R

  • If she's putting her blatant discrimination in writing to you then she's really dumb - might be worth taking all the evidence to the citizens advice people to see what they think.

    And yes - we get bullied and manipulated all the time.    

  • Firstly if she is making such bold statements based on your Aspergers then that is discrimination more so because it is without any factual basis - what I mean by this is that if you were for example wheelchair bound and had a house which you couldn’t access the top floors of or get in and out of due to steps then concerns would be acceptable to be raised without it being discrimination (though obviously a landlady would still have to tread carefully) but to suggest autism means you can’t live in an old house is ridiculous. Has she actually put this in writing? If so keep it - you may need it. I would strongly suggest that if she is refusing to fix basic faults and is using your Aspergers against you, that you should consider taking appropriate action.