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I have forgotten how to be happy!

The Riddler

Recently I have become increasingly aware that other people seem to have fun and enjoy random things, life I guess! However, I feel like I don’t get it. Sometimes I catch myself looking into a situation where people are laughing and having fun, I really want to join in, but I just don’t get it! A few times it’s been pointed out that I just look miserable. Although I don’t necessarily feel miserable inside, more numb.

Is this normal? Is it even possible to be on the spectrum and experience fun and enjoyment like “normal people”

I am currently waiting for official diagnosis and was told this could take 2 years before current pandemic. So christ knows how long it will be now.

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  • I have noticed a lot of people need permission to have fun.     They are so inhibited that they won't admit to themselves what they actually like.      A lot of it is the feeling of needing to be 'a grown up' so all the things that we used to enjoy are classed as childish and cannot be enjoyed any more.

    What did you used to enjoy?      I'd bet there's lots of others near you who enjoy the same thing.

    Personally, I like model building, Technical Lego, playing with keyboards and tinkering with tech - and Disney.      I joined my local model club and the Brickish organisation to meet other nerds on my wavelength.  Smiley

  • in reply to Plastic

    There are things I enjoy for sure. I too can loose myself in a model and doing woodwork, for example. It’s more the spontaneous stuff I struggle with. Particularly as I have an energetic 9 year old. She’ll throw herself at things, shrieking and laughing, and I just get freaked out by it and struggle to work out what is going on. I suppose because it just sounds like a load of noise for the sake of it. Complicated I know.

  • in reply to The Riddler

    That's a great age where they are vacuums for input - you have the opportunity to take her places and show her things and she's of an age where it means something to her.     Ideal time for museums, experiences and just spending time together doing simple things around the home.     Cooking is always fun - my 21-year old is getting back into baking cakes like we did when she was little.

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  • in reply to The Riddler

    That's a great age where they are vacuums for input - you have the opportunity to take her places and show her things and she's of an age where it means something to her.     Ideal time for museums, experiences and just spending time together doing simple things around the home.     Cooking is always fun - my 21-year old is getting back into baking cakes like we did when she was little.

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