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Meltdowns

PickAChew

Mine tend to last hours. They are normally prompted by a sudden change in plans. I start crying, shaking, hyperventilating. 

I'm worried that I will drive people away with this behaviour. And at a time like this (coronavirus) the thought of being abandoned is terrifying.

How do you guys PREVENT meltdowns?

  • in reply to PickAChew

    I'm very lucky indeed :-) I couldn't ask for a better friend. It helps because my friend can be objective and helps me be objective, too. It also helps because I'm not alone with my thoughts (overthinking is a big problem for me). However, I had many, many meltdowns where no amount of talking to my friend actually made it go away. I just felt less alone. And that alone ist worth a lot, in my opinion.

  • in reply to TaRa

    I'm not sure I have a friend of that description; you are very lucky. In what way does talking to your friend help? Do they talk you down? 

  • I have to admit that I rarely manage to prevent a meltdown. However, in the few cases that I did manage it was because I messaged and talked to my best friend. I don't know if you have a best friend that's as non-judgmental as mine, but talking to my best friend always helps me a lot when I feel close to breaking down.