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Asking for help but unable to verbalise it

OutwardBoundBob

Hi,

When I’m struggling I find it exceptionally difficult to verbalise (Or even know) how I’m feeling. Also it’s very hard to even make initial contact. I’m trying to come up with a list of questions that someone could ask me if I could make that initial ‘I’m struggling, HELP’ call. I think I’m trying to find leading questions that may then enable me to elaborate from just a yes/no answer. Any ideas? I think it would need to be a phone call as even though there are face to face support groups near me they are a bus ride away. When I need help I need it quickly!

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  • Hi, could it be helpful to make a list of what you would like to tell someone in this situation and keep it on you at all times, maybe in a list on a phone, such as a statement at the beginning letting them know the situation and how you are affected, asking them to please be patient as it takes time to form your sentences, followed by a request for them to allow you to go through the points, reading the points to them and then asking them to speak at a slower pace than normal? Then it could be read like a script and may give you a chance to give them the key information upfront without having to recall any of it on the spot, maybe leaving you with some energy to elaborate once those points are communicated.

  • in reply to Rach

    Thoroughly good ideas, thanks (I wonder how I never thought of them myself!). If it’s not rude to ask, and you don’t mind sharing are there any questions you’d like to be asked if, say having a ‘meltdown’?

  • in reply to OutwardBoundBob

    No problem! I think that I'd like to be asked if I'd like to be guided to a quiet space, and if I'd like something to eat or drink, as I start losing verbal ability if I get tired or hungry.

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