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ASD and love

Leetom1999

Does anybody else feel like they fall in love to easily and let it consume their lives even when it’s over? Not good with moving on and letting go as I personally struggle with understanding people’s reasoning and motivations. I have also suffered a lot of rejection from family and friends. 

  • I can relate to this. I am nearly 25, and I have NEVER had a romantic relationship. Also, I know all about "The facts of life". However, If push comes to shove, I don't know whether I would be able to implement them. I have come across women that I notice, however I am very wary because I don't know whether or not they are involved. The last thing I want is to be humiliated, or even worse end up playing fisticuffs with a jealous boyfriend.

  • For me, it's all about physical attraction- and I can get possessive of those I fancy.

    As a boy, I did things which repulsed girls. Ever since then, I have made myself feel unlovable. I feel like a 'deadbeat' because I can't keep a steady job.

  • I can relate 100% I get very hung up on a friendship or personal relationship with someone and don't like to let go even tho it's over.

    I've only got 1 friend that I speak to online but no one really. Just my mum who I care for and my dog.

  • I can get attached to people very quickly, not necessarily in a romantic way, I can get attached to some friends very quickly. I'm not good with moving on, in my head, if a friend that I'm attached too doesn't want to be friends any more. I really really struggle with people, especially other Autistic people, not making their intentions clear. Like if someone doesn't want to be my friend anymore then I would prefer it if they just told me straight rather than just stringing me along and telling me BS. I'm more of a pull the plaster off quick kind of girl. If someone rejects me directly then yes of course it hurts but at least I can deal with the facts as they are and start to move on. It really bothers me when people just leave me hanging and not knowing what's going on! People should just be honest rather than expecting me to be able to read between the lines!

  • Can't say I've ever truly fallen in love. I find people attractive, but I've never gotten to that stage.

    • Hello my names Rachel it’s not very often I come on this site but I completely understand what your going through as I have been through it my self as a woman with asd I find it hard and I have suffered rejection. I have met a lot of nice people that have helped me with all my issues have u got any friends that can help u 

  • I really relate.

    Sadly this is one area I have no useful insights, other then to say you're not alone with this. Looking forward to better answers we can both benefit from.