I hope this is the correct place for something like this, but I really need advice.
My partner (21NB) and I (21F) have been dating long distance for a year and maybe 5 months? They have ADHD and autism. We're working on getting them enough money to move up to Michigan with me soon, but finding jobs that are good for their psyche is... very difficult. I think they feel alone, unappreciated, and bullied, resulting in them feeling extremely discouraged and frustrated. Lately they've been really depressed and angry, and I don't know how to best help them with that.
I want to be able to help them and listen to them when they need someone to talk to, but I really don't know what to do when they're so upset. I try and help them look on the bright side of things, remind them that we're working toward something bigger than a few more months of work they hate, but it doesn't help at all. I don't want to belittle their feelings, and I know it's not healthy to let them just stew in their depression. I especially don't want to ignore how their brain works and expect something they can't do, but I'm entirely lost on how to do that.
tl;dr: My long distance partner is autistic and I need advice on how to help them when they're feeling depressed and angry without invalidating them.
If anyone has any advice I'd appreciate it. If this is the wrong place for this discussion my apologies.
Thank you in advance!
