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Just one of those days

Leetom1999

Anybody else just wake up sometimes and think “ well now what?”  I want to get out and do stuff but honestly it’s easier said than done. Everything is just so exhausting. I’m not being lazy or anything it’s just I don’t know what to do to make myself feel connected I guess. It honestly feels like I’m living in a bubble on an another planet. What do I say to people? Will I say it in the wrong way? I don’t know. All I know is I’m a socially awkward 20 year old. Does this make sense?

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  • Makes sense and sounds like it could be younger me talking (38 now). Most helpful thought I would have is to be ok with getting things 'wrong' in other's eyes, There are many people in the world, now is the time to experiment and find your way - plenty of time left.

    Have you considered more structured social activity, like tabletop gaming/rpg clubs or groups? I find it helps remove a lot of the variables and gives a clearer way to proceed with interaction.

  • in reply to Autistic Entrepreneur

    Glad it makes sense. I think about joining groups a lot but I’m not sure how to go about finding such groups. I envy people who have obtained such great social achievements and feel like I could never get to that level. I don’t have much support available too push me to take risks you see. A fear of rejection is also always present. 

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  • in reply to Leetom1999

    Local gaming shops can be a good place to start looking for groups, particularly independent ones though bigger chains like games workshop not bad either. Otherwise there is also a website called meetup to find groups for any interest. Naturally take precautions meeting people from the internet, local shops would be my first call.

    For fear of rejection, I'd treat each one as a practice run. If you focus on the goal (making friends) then success or not is entirely in the hands of strangers, who often make choices by chance more then informed decisions. If you focus more on process, with a goal of experimenting, it doesn't matter what any one group decide/think. This way success (and your future emotional health) is back in your hands.

    Hope that makes sense.