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I was diagnosed with asd about a year ago now it’s all I think about. I worry am I acting normal, is it loud the more I think the louder it gets coz I’m focused on it, anxiety etc where as before I didn’t think much into it I just got on with it Somehow. How do I move on accept my diagnosis and go back to being care free. My manager knows now and just think everyone thinks I’m a liar which makes me even more self conscious where as before I did what I wanted and was me. Anyway just want to know how to accept move on and be who I am. Im fine at home and feel like me

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  • I'm 45 and was diagnoses 18 months ago. Some thoughts that might help:

    Be yourself. After masking for so long you may struggle to recognize what yourself actually is. It's easier to just go with what feels right for you and if that is different to the consensus then so be it. 

    NO ONE IS UNIVERSALLY LIKABLE. Get this through your head. Even among NTs no one likes everyone all of the time. There will always be people who you will not get on with and there isn't anything that you can do about it. Part of being yourself is learning to stop apologizing for who you are. I get on much better with certain members of my office team now that they know that I really don't care about their opinion of me. We don't need to be friends just colleagues. 

    There is no magic switch that will give you back your equilibrium that you had pre-diagnosis. There is a tendency to question all of your past interactions and ruminate over what might have beens. Sometimes useful, ultimately pointless. Focus on navigation of the "now" and feeling good about yourself as you are and not how you think you should be. 

    Thats all I have really. I'm still trying to figure out this stuff too. 

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  • I'm 45 and was diagnoses 18 months ago. Some thoughts that might help:

    Be yourself. After masking for so long you may struggle to recognize what yourself actually is. It's easier to just go with what feels right for you and if that is different to the consensus then so be it. 

    NO ONE IS UNIVERSALLY LIKABLE. Get this through your head. Even among NTs no one likes everyone all of the time. There will always be people who you will not get on with and there isn't anything that you can do about it. Part of being yourself is learning to stop apologizing for who you are. I get on much better with certain members of my office team now that they know that I really don't care about their opinion of me. We don't need to be friends just colleagues. 

    There is no magic switch that will give you back your equilibrium that you had pre-diagnosis. There is a tendency to question all of your past interactions and ruminate over what might have beens. Sometimes useful, ultimately pointless. Focus on navigation of the "now" and feeling good about yourself as you are and not how you think you should be. 

    Thats all I have really. I'm still trying to figure out this stuff too. 

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  • in reply to Gamma Shadow

    Thanks for your reply. Your right I worry so much about people liking me and being the person they want me to be I forget to just be me and not care what they think, I think that’s maybe where before I didn’t care. Thank you you really have helped put things to light and just focus on now and who cares I am what I am :-)