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Undiagnosed sister.

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Hi. My sister is 70.. I belive she has gone under the radar for years as l believe she has severe Autism. Yesterday she tried to take her own life. For decades my sister has been addicted to alcohol so all her problems and symptons have been blamed  on her drinking. All the signs are there but not one person has picked up on it. My sister has been in and out of care homes. Given bucket loads of anti depressants tsblets. She recently spent 5 months in s home after she spent 6 weeks at home not washing, eating,  cleaning or changed her clothes and slept in a chair. When my sister went to visit her bin was full of potatoe crisp packets and nothing else.. Her symptoms have worsened the older she has got. Her 40 year old son has been diagnosed with aspergers.just a few years ago. I really dont know who to turn to to asked for help. I love my sister dearly l cant stand to see her suffering no more l need to do something before its to late. Its s horror story beyond anyones imagination. My sister has no life behind het eyes..she left us years ago. I want her back. Can someone help me please.

June

  • I'm really sorry to hear you and your sister are going through such a difficult time. I can see one of the mods recommended calling the NAS Helpline - I hope you're able to get some good advice from them.

  • Hi ,

    Thank you for sharing this with the community as I know it must be difficult for you. It may be worth contacting the Autism Helpline team who can provide you with information and advice regarding your sister. You can contact the team via telephone on 0808 800 4104 (Monday to Thursday 10am to 4pm, Friday 9am to 3pm). Please note that the Helpline is experiencing a high volume of calls and it may take a couple of attempts before you get through to speak to an advisor. Alternatively, should you prefer to send a message, you can do so via their webform:

    https://www.autism.org.uk/services/helplines/main/questions.aspx

    I hope this helps,

    ChloeMod.

  • in reply to Senor

    Thank you for your reply. My sister is now deemed incapable of making decisions on her care or medical treatment needs. As such an adult protection order for her safety has been granted and now her son and l have lasting power of attorney for her health and welfare so l am hoping this will be enough to get her the assessment she needs without her permission.  

  • It strikes me that your sister's addiction is the initial issue to tackle here. Some sort of psychotherapy might help, with a practitioner who readily recognizes that the addiction is her real roadblock to coming to terms with the other issues in her life. I don't really feel comfortable doing endorsements, but I'm told that more contemporary psychotherapy attempts to make progress right from the first session. And only a few sessions might be necessary to achieve some real improvement in one's life. But how would you ever get your sister to attend such sessions? Does she still have any inclination to read, surf the net or watch videos, for instance.

    I haven't actually read this particular title, but I have read one in the same series on depression and for all its immediacy and simplicity found that it really hit my mark. I've also read some of their more general books, that discuss their rapid-fire approach to a whole range of interconnected issues.

    https://www.humangivens.com/publications/freedom-from-addiction/

    But take a look at the other publications, and the rest of the site, and other connected sites. They also train psychotherapists in their approach, and so they have a list of local practitioners. This approach is considered to be NHS compatible.