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Aspergers & Grief/New job

Clareybobble

Hi I'm New to the site, not diagnosed but thinking about starting the process. However, 3 months ago my Dad passed away from Bowel Cancer. I was very close to him & supported him Alot during the last few months of his life. Since then I've had to sort most things out related to funeral, his finances & clearing his house ready for selling (probably the hardest thing ever for me)

I keep being told I'm doing really well considering but It's been really hard at times. Even now, I'm not sure what to do to deal with losing him & how to get back to Normal. I lost my job in August which was good at the time, as I got to spend more time with my Dad & stop Juggling everything. But now I could do with finding a new job but that prospect, even the interview process is Terrifying to me. I attempted a couple of interviews b4 Christmas but I ended up in tears. So is there any useful resources or experience from other's of coping with grief when your on the spectrum & also new job/interview advise would be very helpful. Thanks in advance x

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  • Hi. I'm really sorry to hear about your dad.

    I'm currently waiting for my diagnostic assessment - I decided I wanted to get to know myself better. 

    In terms of looking for a new job, have you ever tried getting a mentor/career coach? Lots of charities and organisations offer mentoring schemes and you can usually access them for free. I had a few sessions with a career coach through work a couple of years ago, and she really helped me with careers advice and CV/interview skills. Mine was organised through work, but I'm sure there'll be other schemes available.

    In terms of grieving, all I can advise is to give yourself time. You might find it helpful to speak to a counsellor if you want support with working through your feelings and moving forward.

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  • Hi. I'm really sorry to hear about your dad.

    I'm currently waiting for my diagnostic assessment - I decided I wanted to get to know myself better. 

    In terms of looking for a new job, have you ever tried getting a mentor/career coach? Lots of charities and organisations offer mentoring schemes and you can usually access them for free. I had a few sessions with a career coach through work a couple of years ago, and she really helped me with careers advice and CV/interview skills. Mine was organised through work, but I'm sure there'll be other schemes available.

    In terms of grieving, all I can advise is to give yourself time. You might find it helpful to speak to a counsellor if you want support with working through your feelings and moving forward.

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  • in reply to DuckBread

    Thanks for the tips. Luckily I've been having counselling at the Hospice since just after he passed away so that is helping. Also just joined the drop in group session & met a couple of new friends, one in particular who I spent some time with on Saturday, as she lives in the same village & randomly messaged me to go for a walk Smirkx