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mouse2

Hi all, I guess this is more of a moan really. As some of you know there was a HUGE traumatic incident in December. I'm on high dosage anxiety meds at the moment but still I'm struggling day to day. Anyway, before said event I was looking for a new job, going out more, talking to people again etc.I'm good at masking for interviews so I had a very positive interview in a particular field that I have been desperate to get into. This would be a fantastic oppourtunity but it would start Feb/March time. However, since I had to go on Uni credits since mid December and I've told them about this job they dont seem interested. Their sending me adverts for jobs in public situations which freaks me out at the best of times let alone right now. I'm really not coping very well with everything right now and this Uni credits thing is pushing me further over the edge. They want me to go into their offices next week which I'm dreading too. I want a job but I want the job I've got a special interest in and that I wont have to deal with many people. I've even started further training to improve my chances even further with this company and I've told uni credits this. I also know that I need time right now, I know I need to 'get on with life' and whatever random rubbish people throw at me, but I need to withdraw right now.

I'm lucky that I've not had to deal with uni credits before (I'm now almost 40) but their driving me crazy already

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  • I've been on UC since I left university. I do have a part-time job as a cleaner, and my work coach has been brilliant. I have met with him once and he told me because I am in some form of work, I am a low priority and don't have to commit to anything. Basically, they are leaving me alone. I could do with some help as I too would like to get into my dream career. My problem is that I cannot evidence 'good communication skills' so I don't get short-listed for interview. My current job is quite a nightmare, and I often have to go and sit in a darkened cupboard. I work in the changing rooms in a busy gym during opening hours! I have recently taken to wearing noise cancelling headphones and am waiting to get into trouble for that as I was told I could wear them if they were small. They are like tin cans as the smaller ones were way beyond my budget!

  • in reply to MrT

    I can see where you are with the having to leave the room and sit in the cupboard at work. Mine was the toilets. My boss and the owner worked in the same room and were bullies. So not only did I have a stressful job, I got berated regularily to boot! The manager also took my commission, the owner gave me 10 minutes less than other workers, I asked why this is as I work longer hours she replied its swings and round abouts and smiled! I also completed more work than anyone in the office so that didnt make sense. I used to stretch as a stim, they made fun of this so I tried disclosing ASD to the manager but it made them worse until I was forced to quit. I have a 2 hours a week job still but theyve asked me to attend even more interviews today, one being a lifeguard! I have zero experience in this

  • in reply to mouse2

    I'm lucky in that they are quite accommodating at work. The environment really isn't suited to me at all, and I asked if I could drop a day as work was making me physically ill. I did contemplate leaving at one point, but it does get me out of the flat and I have become slightly more social as a result. I've even made a friend in the other lad that works with me. He's forced me out of my comfort zone many times such as not getting it that I don't talk on the phone. His persistence in always ringing me has paid off. He is one of the only people I will actually answer the phone to! He also insists on hugging me! You know, that kind of 'c'mon, bring it in, bro!' type hug thing. He's basically persisted where many would have given up and as a result we have a friendship. I am glad that the DWP are not on my back to find full-time work, though. That would really distress me.

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  • in reply to mouse2

    I'm lucky in that they are quite accommodating at work. The environment really isn't suited to me at all, and I asked if I could drop a day as work was making me physically ill. I did contemplate leaving at one point, but it does get me out of the flat and I have become slightly more social as a result. I've even made a friend in the other lad that works with me. He's forced me out of my comfort zone many times such as not getting it that I don't talk on the phone. His persistence in always ringing me has paid off. He is one of the only people I will actually answer the phone to! He also insists on hugging me! You know, that kind of 'c'mon, bring it in, bro!' type hug thing. He's basically persisted where many would have given up and as a result we have a friendship. I am glad that the DWP are not on my back to find full-time work, though. That would really distress me.

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