Hi all,
So I've recently been diagnosed with autism. This has helped my relationship in some ways as this has explained some of my annoying behaviour. However, my girlfriend has bpd and when she has a period where she finds it difficult, I really struggle.
When there's conflict I find it really hard to 'man up' and say my piece or try to diffuse the situation and I'm unable to say a single word - my partner and I call it 'shutting down'. so the situation spirals and I know Im the one to blame for making it so hard for her to come back to the girl I know and love.
Does anyone have any tips or solutions on how I can cope with shutting down and maintain the ability to speak when my partner is having a tough time dealing with either me or her situation?
Any responses are greatly appreciated. Thank you for taking the time to read my mesage