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Emotions hurt so much...

Original Prankster

So, I went to see 'Last Christmas' with my wife & a couple of in-laws...

SiL: "That was a good film - I enjoyed it"

Wife: "Yes, better than I expected from the reviews... what did you think of it N?"

Me: "I'm going to need to go for a run to get over it..."

Them: "????"

It's a sad rom-com, I sat through a lot of it trying not to break down sobbing as the emotion of it was just TOO MUCH!

I don't think watching a film like this is supposed to make you feel like you have someone grabbing you by the throat while they punch you in the stomach... is it?

I feel like there's a deep well of pain trapped inside me and it's constantly on the brink of bursting out if the slightest crack* opens up in the walls I've built around it.

Feeling stuff just hurts so much sometimes. No wonder I have a reputation for being 'cold and heartless', I just can't afford to risk the pain.

No real point to this, just the NTs in my life won't 'get it' however hard they try (bless 'em)...

Gonna strap my running shoes on, 10k of trails should help 'Ease the pain'...

*edited: originally 'c_hink' not 'crack' but clearly NAS thinks this is a racial slur so filtered it to *** FFS! Your censorship is overkill...

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  • Original Prankster said:
    Feeling stuff just hurts so much sometimes. No wonder I have a reputation for being 'cold and heartless', I just can't afford to risk the pain.

    NAS49761 8 months ago in reply to NAS49761

    What is interesting  though is that I can be highly emotionally reactive  myself to things, especially sensory overload but didn't understand this very well either until I learned more about emotions from my OT.

    So not only is there the difficulty understanding other people's emotions, there is also the difficulty understanding my own. 

    Original Prankster 8 months ago

    The other thing is I find it really hard to be around people who are highly emotional it triggers an 'escape' but also a 'disgust' reaction, much like if they were covered in vomit or faeces... I think this is a subversion of that reaction to potential biological/disease contamination... I don't want to risk 'emotional contamination'...

    Ah, maybe that's it, I've felt for some time you should change your site name to 'Original P***k but maybe you just project(ile) your own emotional difficulties onto other people.

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  • Original Prankster said:
    Feeling stuff just hurts so much sometimes. No wonder I have a reputation for being 'cold and heartless', I just can't afford to risk the pain.

    NAS49761 8 months ago in reply to NAS49761

    What is interesting  though is that I can be highly emotionally reactive  myself to things, especially sensory overload but didn't understand this very well either until I learned more about emotions from my OT.

    So not only is there the difficulty understanding other people's emotions, there is also the difficulty understanding my own. 

    Original Prankster 8 months ago

    The other thing is I find it really hard to be around people who are highly emotional it triggers an 'escape' but also a 'disgust' reaction, much like if they were covered in vomit or faeces... I think this is a subversion of that reaction to potential biological/disease contamination... I don't want to risk 'emotional contamination'...

    Ah, maybe that's it, I've felt for some time you should change your site name to 'Original P***k but maybe you just project(ile) your own emotional difficulties onto other people.

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  • in reply to NAS49761

    OK, now I'm trying to work out what the suggested name-change is...

    Original P-illoc-k?

    Original P-ric-k?

    Orignal P-???-k...

    As for 'projecting my own emotional difficulties onto other people' I would say I respond to issues raised by other people based on my own experience...

    Given the DSM-5 diagnostic criteria for ASD starts:

    "Deficits in social-emotional reciprocity, ranging, for example, from abnormal social approach and failure of normal back-and-forth conversation; to reduced sharing of interests, emotions, or affect; to failure to initiate or respond to social interactions."

    I guess it's wouldn't be surprising if I 'project' my own emotional responses though, as I have no way of recognising or understanding other people's.