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NAS64840

I have met someone online and I feel there is a connection on both sides, when I mentioned meeting up (we are only a few miles apart) she was a bit distant about it, saying she wasn’t good with crowds so I said we could do something where it’s just the 2 of us. She finally confided in me that she is autistic and it hasn’t changed how I feel at all and I told her that I would wait as long as it takes for her to be comfortable for us to meet. 
We message all day everyday basically and things are going so well, I just would like to know if there’s anything else I can do to help make her feel at ease? 

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  • I usually ask what they would prefer to do for the first date and give some suggestions like going a walk (usually in a reasonable quiet public place) or for a coffee or drink. Some first dates that I would personally try to avoid would be the cinema or a meal as I just find it a sort of awkward activity which makes it harder to speak

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    We’ve decided that going for a walk is best for the first date but I’m waiting for her to be comfortable to do that, I’ve mentioned it a couple of times saying “oh how about Tuesday if you’re free?” And she will say that she will let me know on the day which is fine with me I won’t make other plans if there is a chance to meet her, but then it gets to it and she backs out. I just wish there was something more I could do to make her feel comfortable or confident or whatever she needs to be able to feel

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    NAS64840 said:
    I just wish there was something more I could do to make her feel comfortable or confident or whatever she needs to be able to feel

    Might a live cam date be a consideration where you go on the walk and she accompanies you technologically ~ so she gets a feel for things that way perhaps? You could swap roles on one or more walks possibly until you both go actually?

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