Published on 12, July, 2020
I know this is pretty futile musing, although maybe some of the more neurologically typical people on here can help! (I shy away from using the term "NT's" because it feels a bit "them and us" to me).
I've found myself wondering, as I'm accepting, exploring and deepening my understanding of my own atypicalness & ASD diagnosis, about what it's like for others.
For every "aha!" moment I have about e.g. noisy restaurants, eye contact, lack of capability / impetus to maintain friendships, exhaustion in social situations, there is a corresponding "What's it like for others?" moment.
So for example, for typical people:
So, to amplify one of my own questions a bit, it was a revelation for me when I discovered that many people get an oxytocin rush from eye contact (& not just with their love interest!). This is what trains babies to do it as I understand & it persists into adulthood.
So my second bullet above was enquiring about how this *feels*, and I wanted to attach the same type of enquiry to the other bullets - do some people thoroughly enjoy these things? And how does it *feel*?
You know what. Today, I'm going to ask these questions. I'm seeing my family today. I will grill them
Be prepared for the same response as when you ask native speakers of a foreign language about the rules for the finer points of their grammar "Dunno, we just *do*, it feels right" :-)
Hiya. Yes LOL 'just feels right' is the answer. 'No eye contact' is uncomfortable for them if they aren't aware of any spectum disorders.