my daughter married a man with aspergers - he is a lovely chap BUT he has accepted that he needs to own his autism and is open about it - I find him easy to cope with. He has a family with different mental health problems and they are a problem en masse. - his father is egotistical and insulting in his behaviour to me especially, his wife expects me to shrug it off but it can at times be very bad, son in law has brother who had a serious mental breakdown a few years ago and not cannot work, live by himself or function in society. His father's first wife had him sectioned many years ago and he has a second wife who takes the view that they are just so highly intelligent that their rudeness and contempt for others is justified, His father's first wife, his mother, is an alcoholic and my problem is that I cannot cope with them en masse at christmas and my daughter is furious with me. It is like some cult of a family who has made so many excuses for their behaviour over the years that they do not see or accept their differences - they only mix in family, have very few friends and to be frank I am very concerned about my daughter being so immersed with them
How the hell do I deal with this - they are convinced that they are so brilliant, brainy and special that they do not have to even accept my daughter has a family