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agape

Does anyone know please what is the rule for this forum regarding how many threads a week for example one single person may start?

Also some people here have mentioned that my posts are odd and that I was dominating the forum. I have also had remarks like this: people thought I was a bot, if anymore people like this join the forum people will be leaving and other remarks.

I would just like to mention that I believe that as long as we are not being unkind we should all be able to express ourself freely.

I have not been unkind.

For a bit of context here I have been trying to join a forum for quite some time and as I just got the courage to do so was feeling a bit elated and wanted to share a lot of things. To make it clear I am not feeling sad at all but on the contrary my philosophy of life is to make the best of it and try my best to be a loving human (as far as being human will allow). I certainly do not have trouble sleeping in fact I sleep extremely well the majority of nights and usually go to bed early. I was simply not tired that night.  Also question time is on tv at about 11pm so it wasn’t that late.  I’m sorry if I posted more threads than was welcome or if some people thought my posts were odd and were upset by this. To make sure all parties are satisfied, would you like me to only post maximum once per week I will try to do this for you because I don’t want to upset anyone for sure.  How often should I be making new threads and can you define odd for me please and why it wouldn’t be acceptable? I was thinking of leaving the forum but many people have been kind.

Thank you for the people who have been kind to me.

  • Post as many threads as you like. Peace and love.

  • I am not aware of any new threads rule, regarding number of threads.

    Many newcomers who first discover this site are enthusiastic and over productive. 

    As for being odd!  Being odd, is normal for this site.  I have been called much much worse names, to my face and behind my back in non cyber space, and that is by family and so called friends, and neighbours. 

  • in reply to agape

    You're welcome. I honestly didn't mean to cause any offence and I'm sorry if I did so.

  • in reply to Nessie

    Thank you for explaining to me 

  • in reply to Plastic

    Thank you for mentioning that I should join in much appreciated 

  • in reply to Nessie

    In theory anything in the miscellaneous and chat forum could be related to the autistic adults forum hence the varying posts there by various people such as films, the sound of music, what for breakfast etc. If I don’t like monopoly I should be free to say this I don’t have to give a reason. If someone asked me however I would probably reply. This is my posting style but I will try to change myself if it helps for me to fit in here and I will try to post more in the miscellaneous and chat forum.

    I would like to add here that I wouldn’t tell other people how they should write their threads. 

  • in reply to agape

    I think Plastic is just trying to help you understand that starting a thread entitled, for example, "Monopoly" and within it only making a statement such as "I have always disliked this game immensely", is a missed opportunity for a really good discussion in the Miscellaneous & Chat forum.

    Instead, you might have titled your thread with a question, for example, "Which board games don't you like and why?" and within it described and explained your reasons for this by saying something like "Because of my autism, I struggle to organise my thoughts so I don't like games of strategy, such as Monopoly. For the same reason, I also don't really enjoy games that are best played with more than 2 players. How about you? Which board games don't you like and why?"

  • More replies to This Thread, Anyone, Please.

    ...And to "Agape", please read what is replied here, including from Myself. What kept Myself from leaving were merely two kind Users at first (who have since left!), yet as I say, I quickly began a sort of "Why?" Thread, and gained much more understanding, I adjusted My conduct, and then I found a place here. (& Yes, Depite the fact that long term posters get "trolled" too.)

    Try to Pay attention to what is replied to, and take it easy, develop it from that. Good Luck.

  • in reply to .

    Oooooooh, Greets! (Ahem.) I was just posting some long (complaining) thing upon the current "Women Only" Thread and mentioned Your good self. I was right that     .     is "Ellie". Glad to see You Posting, also.

    Those pioneering hey-days of 2016 will likely never come back, hmmm...? What a shame...

  • in reply to Disambiguating Cynosure

    So wonderful to see you posting DC. Missed you lots

    Ellie x

  • Greetings to "Agape" - from a "seasoned" User of the Forum!

    Sorry I am not big on "chat", or post as much as I once did. I am glad to see this Thread from You, as I saw some things happen, and yet I am not posting - I am not the Moderators and I had (have) troubles of My own...

    Starting a Thread like this IS a GOOD idea. It is almost like what I Myself once did, a few years back, after encountering some hatred and I almost got thrown off, too. (The problem with society is that to learn about it, one must participate - ?and make mistakes? - first in order to learn... (!) )

    My advice would have been to start a single Thread, like this, asking what was wrong, and stick to it to regain understanding and answers of how anything works.

    Other than this Thread, I would have said that You might like to try starting a sort of "Random Topics" Thread: This is another thing broached only recently. The thing is, I noticed that You change the subject - a lot - and seem to want to chat...? This is alright, as 'Cloudy Mountains' said upon a different Thread of Yours. 

    Finally, the reason for any "bot" or "troll" comments, I think, was indeed due to beginning lots of new Threads as new Ideas occur to Your good Self: It is true that this is not a good idea. But You had to do that in order to find out that it was not such a good idea?... This is Why I suggest a "Random Topics" Thread of *Your* own --- that way, YOU are the OP and are sort of in charge of what You want upon Your own Thread. It creates Your own personal space here, and can reply or not reply as felt, and see what interests other persons or not. (Also, gives space for consideration and maintains a constant context/narrative. (or something like that.))

    This reply is long enough already, so I aught to end now (or it might disappear). I hope some of this is understood (by Anyone reading) and may be useful to You. Good Luck and have fun.

  • in reply to Plastic

    Are you suggesting that my posts are not good enough quality?

  • Hi agape. 

    As such there is no "rule". Some people post more than others. Some start their own threads, others prefer to read and occasionally comment. I probably fir more into that latter category.

    I had noticed last week lots of threads started by you, and as I didn't recognise your username I must admit the thought did cross my mind that perhaps it was bot/spam/troll related as there have been unfortunately several incidents like that recently. Quite a few of us on here maybe only pop in once a day, and if there are a succession of threads stated in quick succession by one poster then it can look a little odd.

    Certainly no-one has the right to stop others from posting, but maybe there is a compromise to be had. For example the forum "miscellaneous and chat" may be better suited to some of your posts as "autistic adults" tends to be for autistic related threads - eg discussions about diagnosis, work issues etc. However on "misc and chat" there are a plethora of lighter threads such as cake, music, word games etc. Or maybe if you wanted more of a chat on a mix of items how about starting a single thread called "anyone for a chat?" or similar. 

    Are you on Facebook? There are lots of autism groups on there that receive a lot more traffic than this site does, hence there would be more posts starting/more people available to chat, etc.

    Hope this gives you some suggestions; please don't feel you have to leave, as like you say, people on here are really lovely!

  • I don't think there is a rule.  In my view frequent postings add to the pleasure of visiting this site and should be welcome.  

  • Hi - there's no need to leave - join in and have fun - and there's no rule over starting threads - but starting so many 1-line threads doesn't add anything and doesn't really allow people to answer them before they drop off the bottom of the board to be replaced by another load of similar 1-line threads - sort of like Twitter tweets shot into thin air - and during the night, there's very few people here to answer them.

    Why not go for quality over quantity?   Smiley

    You also worried a few people wondering if something had happened and your threads were a symptom of something bigger in your life.

    Are you ok?