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Bottling up feelings

Nugget The Chicken

I'm sure I'm not the only one who struggles with expressing how they feel and ends up bottling it all up.

I've always had this problem. I've always struggled to open up about my feelings, and struggle to put into words what those feelings are. It doesn't help that when I have had the courage to express how I feel, I end up getting shot down. By parents especially. On most occasions I have usually regretted saying anything and wished I kept it to myself. I also feel that I am a burden when I do open up about any negative feelings. I did have a boyfriend who I used to tell everything to, but obviously we're not together anymore, so I don't have anyone I feel comfortable talking to.

I really don't help myself, I know. There's plenty of ways I could release these feelings, but there's always something stopping me. Being Autistic makes it so hard too. 

Yesterday at work I collapsed on the floor. Medically, I was sound. Shaking like crazy, but had no other issues. I can't help but wonder if it was some sort of panic attack? My body breaking down because everything had been kept inside and needed to get out.

I have referred myself to a counselling thing so hopefully that should help. 

Are there any techniques or ways to make it easier to be more open? Conversation starters, certain phrases, etc. 

Thanks ^^

  • in reply to Kitsune

    Oh yeah I can't help but relate to all of that. The other day my sister opened up to my Mom about her depression and her response was basically "Other people have it so much worse!" Which is literally the worst thing you can say to someone suffering from depression. So  yeah, as you can imagine I'm gonna avoid doing that. I do think I should talk to her about how to be better at being a person to talk to, because I want her to be better at it. 

    I've definitely found coming on here and writing how I feel is helping! Plus talking to people who I can relate to makes it better. ^^

    I went to the doctors yesterday and they didn't know why I collapsed. I thought it was to do with me not taking medication the night before but they didn't think that was the case. I'm fine now, thanks. It wasn't too bad considering. I was just shakey, which I still am a bit now. 

    Thank you. Glad to know I have someone to talk to. ^^ 

  • in reply to JohnS

    Yeah it definitely feels like an infinite cycle of stress and anxiety. Oh how fun it all is! Joy

  • I think we all suffer from this and probably partly explains why we get so stressed and anxious?? 

  • This is something that I have always struggled with massively. On the surface I seem as though I’m very open but I actually keep my own counsel about a lot of stuff. Reasons for not opening up and talking about how I’m feeling include feeling too damn awkward to get the words out; Being worried that people won’t take me seriously or will think that I’m making a fuss over nothing; fear that people will just think that I’m stupid and think less of me. I’ve also learned that most people do not want to know if I’m having a bad time, they’d rather hear about something cheerful and happy. I don’t bother to even try to talk with my husband about things that are really bothering me anymore because whenever I have tried in the past he either goes into ‘mr fix it’ mode when all I want is a bit of sympathy and understanding or he’ll mostly go off on some vaguely related monologue for upwards of half an hour which just leaves me feeling incredibly frustrated and nothing actually gets resolved!

    Maybe try talking about how you are feeling about things on here. Is there anything in particular bothering you at the moment?

    I’m really sorry to hear about your collapse yesterday! I guess if any of us bottle things up constantly and just keep on going then eventually it’s going to take its toll! Are you ok now? Have you had any post diagnostic support to help you with how better to manage things? I say this knowing that sadly post diagnostic support is incredibly rare! 

    I think it’s really good that you’ve referred yourself to counselling, hopefully they can help you with this.

    I don’t know if any tips to be more open. I’m still searching for those myself!

    If you ever need to talk then feel free to PM me.