Just reflecting on this aspect of ASD, i.e. difficulties in being able to put myself in the shoes of another and understand why they are so annoyed.
Or, is it that I *can* put myself in their shoes (I'm pretty sure I have good cognitive empathy) but simply can't empathise with their seemingly low threshold for annoyance - possibly due to my alexithymia and preference for logic and seeing things as simply "facts".
As an example, I find that many people on TV, especially ones that comment on politics etc, don't wind me up at all but I hear others say "He/she's so biased, such a terrible interviewer" etc. I understand that some people are unfair to their guests in the way that they barrage them with another question before they've answered the one they were just asked.
Another example is how people get all "torches and pitchforks" about people who commit particular *types* of crimes - whilst seeming to care a lot less about arguably very similar and equally serious crimes.
I don't know really whether I'm generally more chilled than others or blind to what's annoying them, or a mixture of both.
As I grew up, I thought it was just that I'm more level-headed & chilled, but now I have my diagnosis I'm wondering what role ASD has to play here.