Communication issues

Hi everyone, just want to know why people are not understanding me and things are getting worse, my social worker cannot communicate with me and often have battes rather than him trying to help me, I come away feeling worse from the hour every 3 or 4 weeks I see him, kind of frustrating he don't really know how to talk to me.

I am also having real problems with my family who have no understanding of my issues, just as an example of how bad things are, my mum who is severely disabled and elderly has managed to find a home help but it is expensive, as she is with the NHS I asked her and my sister about trying to get this for free or at a reduced rate or een just try, the rudeness of both my sister and mother was beyond the joke, they did not understand what I was trying to do, my mum kept saying "You are going to F..K it up fpr me" even though I clearly told her that I was just looking out for you.

Other incidents have happened where clearly communication was an issue and could have got me into trouble.

At this time I feel all at sea, no point feeling sorry for myself so I get on with it, but seriously it is not good and need some help from someome who will be able to talk to me in a way that I will fully understand, I guess this would be like calming the sea for me with fresh air all around me 'If you know what I mean' 

I have been called all sorts of names 'Scary monster' to "he is on drugs' I am sure others have had the same issues and although name calling can be ignored it does kind of play on my mind because it is simply a communcation issue that has never been fixed or attempted to be fixed by my care co-ordinator.

Many thanks for reading.

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  • Hi, DAZMUFC. I'm really sorry to hear you're going through a tough time. It's really frustrating that your social worker's unable to communicate with you. Maybe you could try sharing this guide with them and discussing ways that you could communicate better with each other? https://www.autism.org.uk/professionals/training-consultancy/good-practice-guides/adult-support.aspx

    The situation with your mum and sister sounds very stressful. Perhaps they're just feeling concerned about the situation and their concern came out as anger (I'm not saying they responded in the right way - just that it's probably not personal).

    It's really hard when people are calling you names (I posted something earlier about a name-calling situation that really upset me). As hard as it is, try to remember that people who call you names are the ones with the problem - not you. People should treat you with respect no matter what, and their immature comments just show that they know absolutely nothing about you.

    Take care and be kind to yourself. The NAS Helpline might be useful if you need some advice on your social worker or your family situation.

  • Hi, many thanks for contacting me, yes I will contact someone that my social worker obviously has no knowledge of Aspergers, I am trying to get away from him to be honest but even that is taking ages as have tried to transfer.

  • Good luck with everything - I hope you manage to get transferred to somebody more helpful.

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