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Jittery bug

NAS63555

Today I had to pick up a laptop for work, the IT guy who I was with for a hour or two I  literally told him everything about Myslef my past as childhood my addiction  my hobbies and my diagnosis coming up, ive never met him  before, was I confiding to much does this happen to anyone else, the thing is he seemed interested to be honest wanting to do martial arts himself like me, he noticed I didn't sit still shaking me leg and the chair, and feeling uncomfortable when I was face to face with him does this happen with any forms of autism? 

  • This happens to me so often! I end up telling people all sorts and then wonder why later on. I shake my leg when I'm anxious too. Try not to overthink it now it's happened - the likelihood is that you won't see him again (even if you do, at least you have martial arts as a conversation starter).

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    Yea I can see a lot of what you're saying and then sometimes I'm completely the opposite and stare uncontrollably at someone and my partners had to tell me to stop really odd 

  • Yes, I definitely over share. I have a strong desire to be "known". But I'm quite picky over who I share to when it's one on one - and now I'm trying to work out what my criteria are!

  • It’s something I find myself doing all the time.

    it for me is wanting to be recognised for who I am, also in a way it’s me saying “ hey this is me! I am ok really once you get to know me, I mean no harm to anyone.”

    its looking for some kind of confirmation i am alright really"

    Its also wanting to connect and find someone to tell all about myself , my good points, bad points and WHO I am.

    I always trust everyone and tell them too much, it often gets me into trouble as the times it’s been used against me are many.

    Call it being naive, too trusting, expecting everyone to have the same sense of honesty and kindness I have.

    I try very hard not to say too much theses days as I have learnt over fifty odd years there are a lot of people who enjoy hurting people or at best having a laugh at others expense.

    I imagine it is an autistic trait!

    just try to remember not everyone is kind or trusting and not everyone wants to be a friend.

    I opened up to someone I worked with for a long time, confided in them totally.

    it helped me when I needed someone to listen to the the really tough period I was going through,  not long after I found out it had been put about to everyone but twisted and changed so as to cause much laughter and hurt to myself :(.  

    Take care and if this person does in some way start telling things to others for a laugh all you can try to do is say “ oh that? You didn’t actually believe that did you?”.

    in other words make out you were lying or saying it just to get a reaction. It sometimes works but way to often the damage is done and yet again I have been hurt and left struggling to trust anyone ever again.

    I trust no one any more as no one seems to be as honest as myself. People lie and hide things. 

    Take care and try to learn by this.

    Its so sad having to be guarded and not trust anyone but sadly life has taught me not everyone is as kind and caring as myself.

  • Hi NAS63555.

    I know that some autistic people can have a tendency to over-share. Likewise fidgeting/stimming (e.g. shaking your leg). Being uncomfortable face to face sounds a bit like avoiding or being uncomfortable with eye contact which, again, is often an autistic trait.