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Dangerous when stressed

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Ive not noticed before but Ive been so stressed of late and close to meltdown. I have a teen with ASD who Im struggling with, zero support, school holidays, stress from other sources too. No time to unwind really. I feel constantly on high alert. I cant bear my jewelry even wedding rings. noises are mking me mad. Trouble typing. My skins super itchy. 

The thing that I havent noticed before is my dangerous impatience, if im super close to meltdown all logic leaves my brain. I crossed a road the other day, saw a car coming but I needed to cross, the car obviously wasent going to stop. Today I couldnt work out how to use the electric finder thingy so decided to drill in the wall anyway as i needed it done, luckily stopped at the last minute and have left the wall. I actually feel ashamed of my actions, whats wrong with me? im only like this when so close to meltdown. The last few weeks i just cant calm down i need a break but there is none. my sons quite demanding at the moment now he has hit his teens, i feel stretched so thin. Miserable. i feel like a terrible person, i really need abreak :(

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  • OK, I think this is actually quite 'normal' autistic behaviour - I do this myself (and also an an utter *** when I'm on 'low spoons')

    When I'm close to meltdown the need to reduce/remove any source of anxiety means I'll take risks if they mean that anxiety is removed/reduced more quickly.

    You've recognised that you're close to meltdown and that it's making you behave rationally but recklessly.

    Try to get some respite - can your son stay with friends family for a couple of days to give time to decompress?

    Can you fall back on a known method of reducing your anxiety levels?

    Ask for help, understand that the NEED to DO THIS NOW is due to the fact you are at your capacity to deal with stuff - you need to give yourself a break.

    Best.

    OP

  • in reply to Original Prankster

    Thank you for making me feel less terrible. I have no one when my husband is away for work. Today I decided to read until mid day! My son was thankfully having a good day. Then I visited my favourite shop which helped a little. (Its a quiet plant nursery, so only 1 or 2 people around). Then home again. I'm feeling like my anxiety has lessened today which I'm relieved about. Thank you again

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  • in reply to Original Prankster

    Thank you for making me feel less terrible. I have no one when my husband is away for work. Today I decided to read until mid day! My son was thankfully having a good day. Then I visited my favourite shop which helped a little. (Its a quiet plant nursery, so only 1 or 2 people around). Then home again. I'm feeling like my anxiety has lessened today which I'm relieved about. Thank you again

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