I need advice. Yesterday at 9:00am my poor little friend Pippin, a Yorkshire Terrier died. He was suffering from a stroke or a brain tumour; the vet wasn’t sure. He had been a massive support to me over 13 years in the worse of times. My only friend during the night when I was alone.
i can’t eat, I can’t sleep, I feel sick, it has given me a bad stomach. I’ve cried so much and so often that I’ve become dehydrated. He died at home, he didn’t go silently, but he was completely gone, mentally at this point but I was there for the whole thing. It was the worse experience of my life. Thank god my brother was there with me. He was due to go to the vets to be put to sleep but he couldn’t hold out.
he has a brother, Pickles, but he spends all he’s time following my grandmother around. Pippin stayed with me, always.
i can’t focus on anything, I never knew how much he meant to me. He was a rock, a constant in my life, he was always there waiting for me, tail wagging. I know it sounds insane but I would confide in him. I wake up shaking in a panic wandering where he is.
I’ll be getting another friend soon enough but things will never be the same.
Does anyone have any tips on how to accept it and move on? Or is it just time?
I miss him so much.
Sorry to hear it.
I haven't got any good practical advice.
Except to say that I understand your loss.
When my cat passed away, I never got over her, although she was old and in very poor health. I still miss her.
Oh bless, I’m very sorry to hear this tragic news such a beautiful dog, must be such a loss.
I’d feel so horrible if I was in your shoes, but try to drink plenty of water and don’t starve yourself (too much). Take yourself on a walk to a new path, it could help you cool off and keep your mental state healthy, as well as helping you sleep. Even ask your man or brother for some company you shouldn’t keep yourself in isolation during difficult times like this
Thank you for your reply. I understand. I didn’t really expect anyone to have any real advice i think I just needed to share.
I lost a cat not too long ago, he too was old. Jellybean he’s name. I still miss him to. Their one and only fault is they don’t live as long as we do I guess.
Thank you, my two brothers are spending some time with me over the weekend. My younger brother is studying to be a therapist he’s done a lot on autism too so he’s been a massive help too me.
its the worse point in my life. But I know one day I’ll give a great home and be able to add another friend to my list for a another dog.
i just can’t stand the idea of people forgetting him, I know they never will but he was so important too me.
I think you should carry on mourning him and keeping his memory alive.
Time will ease the pain eventually.
I still mourn my cat. She left me 30 years ago. I still miss her. She came as a stray and kept me company and relatively sane in an insane household.
this is really sad. I was devastated when my dog died quite suddenly a few years ago. I couldn't go to work for ages and didn't know what to do with myself. I took her everywhere with me outside of work. Make sure you drink lots of water. I lived on cups of tea and biscuits for about a month.
Thank you, I can’t even count how many cups of tea I’ve had in the past three days. I got some photos of him yesterday, getting some frames too. I feel like I’ll do more to honour him though but it’s a start.
sorry to hear about your little guy.i suppose a few weeks of sorrow and pain is worth all the years of joy and happiness they bring.
I did exactly the same. Got some nice frames and got some really nice photos printed. And yeah that's the best way to think about it, we know they don't live as long as us. Just need to take peace in knowing we gave them a nice life.
I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your best friend. I lost one of my dogs a couple of years ago and it was one of the hardest things I have ever had to go through. I'm afraid I don't think there is any particular way of dealing with the grief its something we all have to go through its the price we pay for loving our pets, like Robert said I didn't get over my loss but leaned to live with it and eventually the pain eased, I think we take it harder because they mean so much more o us and are a much bigger more important part of our lives due to our lack of communication with Its.
BTW He looks a gorgeous boy, hugs to you. xx
awwh he had a lovely little face! I lost a dog a few years back and I still miss her every day. I got her cremated so I got her ashes back in a urn that looked like her. I've made a shrine in my bedroom, with her urn on, photo's her favourite toys and talk to her. I talked to an animal communicator who told me she would leave me little signs that she was still watching over me and would reincarnate and come back to me one day in the form of another dog. Fortunately for me I also had a younger dog so my routine didn't change I still had to to go out to walk a dog. I found it hardest dealing with people asking where my other dog was so started taking him out really early like 5am (clocks had gone back so it was light) and avoiding people in case they asked.
Just over 3 years and I still sleep with her teddies on her bed and still buy her a present incase she reincarnates and comes back in time for her birthday or xmas, so if she's watching (as a spirit) she knows I haven't forgotten her and am still waiting for her to 'come home'. I think she might wait for my current dog to get very old though (or wait until he's passed) as she always preferred being an 'only dog' and having me all to herself.