Obsessed with friend

I'm self diagnosed autistic but have a lot of other things going on as well. I think I have developed an obsession with a friend. I thought that maybe I was in love with him but now I wonder if it's just obsession or total confusion because I don't know what level of friends we are. I don't really know how he thinks of me, and I avoid contacting him at all because I'm afraid of contacting him too much or being inappropriate. 

I can't get him out of my head, all the time. I'm going through an exceptionally difficult time at the moment in other aspects of my life, but I wonder how many of my mental health problems are actually because of this obsession. I know that I'm finding it very painful. I don't want to cut him off from my life, as aside from the obsession he is very dear to me. In any case, I can't because I work with him as well, which also complicates things. 

Does anyone have any suggestions for how I might overcome the obsession or at least get him out of my head a bit? 

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  • Hi

    A couple of thoughts - what do you want to happen?

    Have you thought about coming clean and actually talking to him about it all?    Explain your thoughts and fears about alienating him.

    You only get one life - so worrying about possibilities is a waste - take the plunge, get the answer - at least you would know the truth and be able to enjoy or move on with certainty.

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  • Hi

    A couple of thoughts - what do you want to happen?

    Have you thought about coming clean and actually talking to him about it all?    Explain your thoughts and fears about alienating him.

    You only get one life - so worrying about possibilities is a waste - take the plunge, get the answer - at least you would know the truth and be able to enjoy or move on with certainty.

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