It's a massive thing, and a small thing (now it's over) at the same time.
But I'm relieved, forward-looking, and feeling celebratory :-)
It's a massive thing, and a small thing (now it's over) at the same time.
But I'm relieved, forward-looking, and feeling celebratory :-)
Thank you! Yes I've read it but will need to go back to it - it's quite long and has lots of suggested web references to follow up.
I'm having several glasses of wine but no where near the thirsty way I tucked in to alcohol when I just wanted to avoid the life that was confusing the hell out of me.
Just a fab day!
The reports are HUGE! I read mine twice all the way through and then shoved it in a drawer where it's stayed since, as I found it quite a difficult read and didn't want to keep being reminded of what it said. I wanted the diagnosis but I found it quite hard to read all of my difficulties and deficits spelled out in black and white! I might eventually read it again in a couple of years. Luckily I've been able to find my own resources both before and after diagnosis which have proved very helpful. I hope there are some useful web references at the back of your report.
What wine are you drinking? It's a relief isn't it, when we finally understand why we are the way we are? I told you months ago you were setting off my radar!
Hope you continue to enjoy your fab day :-)
This is something I've always done, and it wasn't till recently I started questioning if it was normal or not. Do other people replay things over and over in their head. Or worry about something so minor days after it happened. A few months ago at work I emailed this lady a whole month after she had sent me a file I had asked for, just to say I've just noticed I didn't reply and say thinks-I'm sure you didn't think anything of it but just incase you thought I was being rude. She replied that she hadn't given it a second thought. But I'd sat for a few hours worrying that I had been rude not saying thank you, and then worrying about whether to email or not to email.
Yep. The thinking over even brief and trivial conversations days later! :-)
I have to think what I should be asking people, to show I do care and to make them not think I’m rude and totally uninterested in them. Sometimes I forget, and then I can spend days and days thinking about it over and over again worrying they won’t like me or that I came across as really rude.
Haha, that’s exactly what I said/thought when I read my report! It said I didn’t ask the interviewer about how she felt or her experiences during the conversation. She told me on the day after the assessment I didn’t ask her further when she talked about a few personal things to see whether I’d ask her further and I didn’t. When I read the report I was thinking, ‘erm cos we’re here to ask about me? We’ve only got an hour why waste it talking about you?’ Bit weird being judged on that I think! It makes sense not to waste the hour talking about someone’s experiences and feelings.
Yep. Just like eye contact and body language, asking about the other person is something that I have to consciously remind myself to do when talking to others - and quite often I simply forget.
The holiday thing was probably to see if you picked up on it in terms of reciprocal conversation. You didn't and neither did I in mine.
My report described how I talked and talked at great length and detail, but failed to acknowledge the Dr. when she was telling me something about her.
You're now free to live your life your way! Good on you for celebrating in style!
I've had periodic "troubles" since starting a proper job in the late 90's, all put down to depression and anxiety, and finally I have a more satisfactory explanation and also one that explains why I don't rejoice in all of the social stuff I see going on and that my mother and daughters delight in.
A year ago I wanted to escape from life; now I want as much life as I can get to be me without guilt!
The reports really are a bit mean in places aren't they!? Yeah same, the assessor also told me she'd recently been on holiday, a prompt to elicit a socially reciprocal question from us, sadly for her that was before I'd done the chapter on reciprocal conversation in my social skills book! I'd 'get it' now though.
Ooh the Chardonnay sounds lovely! We have a barrel of home brewed Chardonnay on top of our fridge but I'm being good with drinking at the moment. Although I do have a bottle of prosecco with the best before date of 31/07/19 so I might have to drink that in a couple of days! I couldn't possibly let it go out of date!
Trance music is good and uplifting too I find! I like how you're having such a good 'report has arrived' day :-)
Apart from replying to threads on here, I need to go and drop a form through the letterbox of one of Beaver's parents in a minute as I won't have time tomorrow.
The reports really are a bit mean in places aren't they!? Yeah same, the assessor also told me she'd recently been on holiday, a prompt to elicit a socially reciprocal question from us, sadly for her that was before I'd done the chapter on reciprocal conversation in my social skills book! I'd 'get it' now though.
Ooh the Chardonnay sounds lovely! We have a barrel of home brewed Chardonnay on top of our fridge but I'm being good with drinking at the moment. Although I do have a bottle of prosecco with the best before date of 31/07/19 so I might have to drink that in a couple of days! I couldn't possibly let it go out of date!
Trance music is good and uplifting too I find! I like how you're having such a good 'report has arrived' day :-)
Apart from replying to threads on here, I need to go and drop a form through the letterbox of one of Beaver's parents in a minute as I won't have time tomorrow.
You're now free to live your life your way! Good on you for celebrating in style!
I've had periodic "troubles" since starting a proper job in the late 90's, all put down to depression and anxiety, and finally I have a more satisfactory explanation and also one that explains why I don't rejoice in all of the social stuff I see going on and that my mother and daughters delight in.
A year ago I wanted to escape from life; now I want as much life as I can get to be me without guilt!