Why do we pretend normal society is functional?

I believe all of society’s problems come from a lack of community – if you look at ancient communities, young people belong to the community – they are known to everyone and they interact with everyone.   Eventually, the boys learn the skills of being a functional man and eventually undertake a rite of passage into adulthood where they fit in with the expectations of the community.   The girls learn all about their role in life from their mothers and grandparents.

Today’s youths interact with no-one and have no rite of passage so their only way of making their mark in life is by vandalism or negative actions that gain them attention.    There are no positive role models for them to understand how to be a good adult so they make it all up themselves.

Unfortunately, over the last 60 years or more, the government has worked against the people by fragmenting society and creating an environment where parents have to work long hours to pay the bills so children are left to their own devices.    Their social education is mostly taught by violent tv programmes teaching them how to steal, murder, bully and abuse.   10 minutes of EastEnders would be X-rated for sex & violence in the old days – now the behaviour is seen as normal.

I dont agree it's the parents working long hours. Based on the area I live in and my sons constant bullying through school the parents in the majority didnt work at all, majority took drugs or alcohol or known to the police for various reasons. Based on my area

But those parents are the offspring of failed parents too - that's the problem - no community so there's no pressure for any of them to straighten up and fly right - they are allowed to become as dysfunctional as they like.

But those parents are the offspring of failed parents too - that's the problem - no community so there's no pressure for any of them to straighten up and fly right - they are allowed to become as dysfunctional as they like.