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Gender Dysphoria

ElvisKadratto

Hi, my name is Elvis and I am new here.

I was first daignosed with ASD when I was 13, I'm 22 now and my life is just a mess!

I have many issues - OCD, anxiety.. however one issue which is getting worse all the time is gender dysphoria. I'm not sure if anybody else suffers from it, but since I was a child I have always wanted to be a girl. I like their clothes, their toys, everything about them is appealing to me and I feel like a girl, just trapped inside this body. My parents are of ill health and I have no friends, no job and am just feeling so stressed and confused.

If anyone has any experience with this and can help me then that would be great.

Thanks for your time.

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  • Hi

    I had some similar concerns when I was around the age you are now but perhaps less clear-cut than what you were saying. If I was that age now I would probably chose to use the non-binary tag. I think it was watching television programmes and reading and suffering difficulties forming relationships that got me to that point, but I actually went to various groups and things, which were at people's houses on non-inclusive LGB (no T or anything else then) groups. Whilst I felt quite strongly that gender was an "issue" for me I was not interested in expressing anything outwardly about my identity. I wouldn't pretend to know or understand it well, even about myself, but I surmise that as someone with ASD one is much less able to pick up and learn the social cues and behavioural norms of one's (birth-assigned) gender and this means one is likely to feel no great affinity with that category. At least, that is how I felt. The one conversation which I think really helped me was with a very pragmatic woman who felt she had always wanted to be male and would have transitioned had it been available to her but was now happy that she had not. I suppose I could see in her something I could relate to. I know that isn't particularly relevant to you but just thought I'd share my experience such as it is.

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  • Hi

    I had some similar concerns when I was around the age you are now but perhaps less clear-cut than what you were saying. If I was that age now I would probably chose to use the non-binary tag. I think it was watching television programmes and reading and suffering difficulties forming relationships that got me to that point, but I actually went to various groups and things, which were at people's houses on non-inclusive LGB (no T or anything else then) groups. Whilst I felt quite strongly that gender was an "issue" for me I was not interested in expressing anything outwardly about my identity. I wouldn't pretend to know or understand it well, even about myself, but I surmise that as someone with ASD one is much less able to pick up and learn the social cues and behavioural norms of one's (birth-assigned) gender and this means one is likely to feel no great affinity with that category. At least, that is how I felt. The one conversation which I think really helped me was with a very pragmatic woman who felt she had always wanted to be male and would have transitioned had it been available to her but was now happy that she had not. I suppose I could see in her something I could relate to. I know that isn't particularly relevant to you but just thought I'd share my experience such as it is.

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