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Post Diagnosis Blues

Kitsune

This is a bit of a delayed reaction as I was actually diagnosed last December. I thought that I’d managed to avoid being too emotionally ‘affected’ by the diagnosis. However, I’ve had a bit of a vulnerable feeling creeping up on me for the past couple of weeks and it’s hit me full thwack today! I’m struggling with how autism makes me and I’m struggling with how the combined effect of brain injury plus autism makes me. I feel like the most stupid person in the world right now, someone who just goes through life blindly trusting people, always trying to see the best in people, never able to see when people are just playing me. I usually always try to keep positive and upbeat but I’m just feeling really overwhelmed by how socially naive my dual neurological diagnosis makes me. 

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  • I totally understand how you feel.

    Actually being aware of our shortcomings and that we cannot easily fit in to the normal world and how vulnerable we really are to manipulators and how gauche we can be in social situations is enough to make us hide indoors and never come out.

    We also have a long list of positives which makes us strong.

    I've spent a lot of time analysing my pros and cons since diagnosis and I decided that I will only spend time with positive people who actually 'like' me and want to spend time with me.

    I 'know' myself better than most NTs know themselves.   I have honour and integrity.

    All the users, manipulators, bullies, judgemental people, fakes and liars can go screw themselves.

    Take the time to know yourself and decide which parts of your life you like - and dump all the bits that offer you no positives.

  • in reply to Plastic

    Thank you.

    I'm slowly realising that trying to fit into the normal world really doesn't work for me. It's odd because after the brain injury, I became fixated on recovering as well as possible and still being as 'normal' as possible. Whereas this time round, after an autism diagnosis, I'm like pah! what's the point in even trying to be normal?! It's not really going to happen is it?!

    We do have some positives to the way our brains work.

    I think only spending time with people who are good for us is sensible, there's no point spending time with negative people.

    I know myself well, it's just other people that I struggle with.

    I'll second that :-)

    That's good advice, perhaps it's time for a life review!

  • in reply to Kitsune

    ...Hear Hear! (In support of both Plastic There and Miss Kitsun.)

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