Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi All
Im new to this forum I was diagnosed with mild Aspergers at about 15 years old I'm now nearly 30. I have struggled throughout my life from primary school to the present day. I have no friends or girlfriend
live at home with my parents and work 3 days a week as a gardener. I feel so isolated the only social time I have is with my parents and the one person I work with and that is all. I need to make a change as its driving me mad.
I’m exactly the same. I have previously been to uni, had experiences away from home but once I had my son I found life too hard and moved back to my parents house.
I prefer it to living completely alone but I’m incredibly lonely. I recently had to leave my job as I was failing at work and no adjustments were made. Now I literally only speak to my parents. My brother also has aspergers. I have a son who keeps me busy to an extent but it’s still lonely.
I’d love to get a boyfriend but don’t think I am neutotypical enough to make it work. I still try though.
The things that have helped me not go completely mad:
Gym membership- something fun to do and you always meet people.
Planning holidays- even if it’s by yourself it’s nice to go somewhere new.
Speed dating- I go to speed dating events. They’re so fun and you can go alone.
Online dating- I enjoy just chatting online to people and the prospect of meeting someone new. I use tinder as there’s loads of people on there.
Things that haven’t worked- voluntary work. Just didn’t enjoy it and found it too hard.
You could look to change job to one with more socialising involved.