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mouse2

I'm not diagnosed as I'd have to pay privately and I cant at the moment.

I often have problems with people and once again I'm feeling really frustrated.

I feel completly overwhelmed trying to work situations out and end up in tears

I forget what people look like and their names

 No matter how hard I try I cant remember their features. All I remember is if their Male or female. This has meant I've walked past alot of people if I see them out of the normal place I usually see them. People do tell me their offended but I'm not trying to be rude.

I've even stood next to my husband in a busy shop at Christmas and not known he was there. He thought it was hilarious but I find it very frustrating. 

Another issue on my mind right now is why when people do awful things do people still talk to them friendly. Nothings said. People talk badly behind their back but are still friends with them! I really struggle with that one. 

If I cant understand why someones said or done something to me I cant let it go and think about it alot. It even pops up in my mind years later 

Theres more but I need to see if anyone else understands I feel alone and like I dont fit in so thought I'd ask here

Thank you

  • in reply to I'm done with Christmas Cards

    Thank you I'll look it up. People do think I'm nuts as I just say I dont notice people and try and make a joke of it. I didnt notice my my neighbour standing next to me at the bar the other day until he said about it thinking I was rude but I couldn't work out if he was joking

  • Have you come across term Prosopagnosia / "face blindness"? Just thinking it might help you to know that it's a recognised thing & you're not alone. Some correlation with ASD too, as far as I remember.

  • in reply to Plastic

    I completly agree with your whole post! I recognise people by their voice before I recognise their face! Even if something major has happened I couldn't even remember their hair colour! 

    I get so frustrated at people and their complexness. I try to be honest and straight forward but apparently I come across as hard to get along with, stuck up and so on. 

    My head feels like it's going to burst, I feel so frustrated at recent events with people. I've ended up in bursts of frustrated tears. I used to bite my arms in frustration but I can control that at the moment. However I bite other things. 

    Not being diagnosed I feel I dont belong anywhere. I've always felt I dont belong, even with my family growing up. 

    Sorry to go on I'm frustrated today with working it all out

  • in reply to mouse2

    Exactly - If I don't know them, why should I be excited about meeting them?   They are all the same to me - the only differences I see in people is how they treat me.  

  • Hi Mouse - you are not alone - I'm the same.

    I rarely recognise people unless they have something unusual about them - false leg, one eye - pirates in general Smiley   The people who know me understand that i have difficulties with names & faces.    If they are out of context too, I will walk right past them.

    I have difficulty recalling people that I've known for 20 years or more - and some people are so generic I can never remember them - like my psychologist lady - seen her lots of times, no idea what she looks like.   I know her voice sounds like Janet Ellis from Blue Peter but that's it - although that was handy for my medical report as she's seen my problems first hand.

    I spend a lot of time reprocessing negative interactions with people trying to work out what was really going on.    I get to watch a lot of late night tv when my brain won't let something go - and as you say, it can be from years ago.

    I have to have someone with me in crucial conversations because I am easily rail-roaded and manipulated because I can't keep up with the processing and I forget what was said and agreed afterwards too.

    I too cannot get my head around the falseness of typical NT behaviours of lies and manipulation either - I avoid it like the plague.  It's chaos and I don't like chaos.

    All of my friends are nice, genuine people with no axes to grind.  They are all comfortable within themselves and have accepted themselves for who they are.    I suspect all my closest friends are undiagnosed Aspie too.

  • I also want to add that I see everyone as equal. Men and women. My husband said something along the lines of I cant do that as men may get the wrong idea.  I talk to men and women the same. I dont understand why people get excited over famous people or royal family....their all people and I dont know them so why would I get excited to see them