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I think I might have to compromise

Roswell

Most people are rude to me when they first meet me and I think it's because I dress like George Constanza or Jerry Seinfeld from the Seinfeld sitcom. Polo shirts, shirts, chinos, smart-ish jackets. 

I might switch over to hoodies, jogging pants and jeans. Sometimes you just want to catch a break off people, you know? I personally believe in dressing smart but what's the point if it makes people dislike me so much?

Sigh. I really don't like how superficial society is, and how if one doesn't go along with it, people will often refuse to open doors for you. I may as well give way to them, the masses have determined fashion. I need some new social connections, you've got to be pragmatic sometimes, right?

A bit like politics. They have to kiss babies and do a certain kind of publicity campaign or they never get into office. You've got to play the game?

  • in reply to Disambiguating Cynosure

    That was what I thought too Disambiguating Cynosure. I sense some people see someone in smart clothes as the enemy. The banker who they owe money, the taxman.

  • in reply to Original Prankster

    It could be my stiff body language sometimes. Stiffness + smart clothes = looks like a shop dummy?

  • in reply to Original Prankster

    Neek! Greetings to You... I actually logged off but then logged back on in case people misinterpreted the word "strange" as "bad"... but, well, that is that. But You, wearing a Tie with Short Sleeves, such a rebel, I would never dare do that...  ;-)

    Original Prankster said:
    Also, it seems odd that people would be rude based on the clothes you describe. Can you provide an example?

    ...It is not odd at all, really. I could provide a lot of examples, but I am not here that often... but, it is a very common thing; That it does not happen to anyone is a good thing and how life should be.

    I live in London. Formal clothes, around Kensington, Knightsbridge, Bank, (rich people?!)... they are polite and accepting. Anywhere else, if You are not wearing a uniform or are not a Lawyer/Office Worker then, there is some disrespect.

    Generally the wearing of a TIE is a very big deal with regards to how one is treated. I could go on but I kind of want to sign off and see how this Thread develops later on if I can. Plus this reply is long enough already...

  • Rock your own style!

    I wear a short-sleeved white shirt, with skinny tie and smart charcoal trousers to work Mon-Fri even though we have a casual dress policy...

    I give myself 'casual Fridays' - people now comment that they 'think it's Friday!' if for some reason I have to wear casual clothes on a non-Friday... it's my 'thing'.

    Also, it seems odd that people would be rude based on the clothes you describe. Can you provide an example?

    Maybe you are misinterpreting?

  • Greetings... A curious Thread, maybe. But I say, Your own happiness should come first, and this links to comfort, and health, and then confidence through strength. If You are content then that makes an impression and negative opinions do not matter. You can only best help others by being strong, and that starts by helping Youtrself. Stay away from those who insist upon negative opinions about You. ...Dress however You want...!

    Except unless it breaks the Law or a Uniform must be worn... (!) And, maybe unless this Thread is actually hinting at asking about something completely different, "Social Norms", "superficiality", or something, then, sorry... :-\

    EDIT! - I changed the word "strange" to "curious", see my next reply for slight reasons why.