I think I might have to compromise

Most people are rude to me when they first meet me and I think it's because I dress like George Constanza or Jerry Seinfeld from the Seinfeld sitcom. Polo shirts, shirts, chinos, smart-ish jackets. 

I might switch over to hoodies, jogging pants and jeans. Sometimes you just want to catch a break off people, you know? I personally believe in dressing smart but what's the point if it makes people dislike me so much?

Sigh. I really don't like how superficial society is, and how if one doesn't go along with it, people will often refuse to open doors for you. I may as well give way to them, the masses have determined fashion. I need some new social connections, you've got to be pragmatic sometimes, right?

A bit like politics. They have to kiss babies and do a certain kind of publicity campaign or they never get into office. You've got to play the game?

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  • Who are those people who are rude to you, are they wearing hoodies and jogging pants?

    Do you think they are rude because of pants they wear? ..I know.. you know chances are the same people will continue to be rude and abusive because they have low self esteem and have found somebody they perceive to be  more vulnerable, so they want to kick someone they feel they can. Don't let them.

    Female perspective? Hoodies are for teens. Jogging pants on grown men? Yuk...

  • I'll have to become more confident so they don't perceive me as vulnerable.

    If you were choosing clothes for an adult man in his thirties, to wear casually out and about (when not in work) what would you buy?

  • If you were choosing clothes for an adult man in his thirties, to wear casually out and about (when not in work) what would you buy?

    ...Me, again. I wondered what this Thread was about, and stand by what I said at first, and "Neekby" supports that, as far as I can understand. Dress to grow Your own confidence in a situation, dress to empower Yourself, and dress to feel that and to feel comfortable and happy. 

    ...But if this is a fashion/what is acceptable to wear Thread, then, well... this is Me saying "Sorry" again!

    (If more about someone else, Myself helps... then here it is. Combine the "Mormon" pictures below with a Blazer and a Hat... this is what I wear, but with long sleeves, though. At school (back in the 80s), I was obliged to wear a SHORT skirt with it; I hated it, until they changed the RULES, allowing Non-Muslims to cover themselves as well. (!!) So I changed my wearing the SHORT skirt to wearing Trousers --- and not soon enough, I can tell You...!) 

    Good Luck, All ! 

  • Or like when new rented properties are painted with “beige” paint,

    no character quite plain but not to bright. Ready for all who may consider it based on all the factors as in size, area, practicality and once they are seen to be right the decor is purely a matter of personal choice.

    Not everyone likes bright primary colours or indeed country kitchen style wooden beams and such like.

     A neutral so as not to draw focus or add opinion.

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  • Or like when new rented properties are painted with “beige” paint,

    no character quite plain but not to bright. Ready for all who may consider it based on all the factors as in size, area, practicality and once they are seen to be right the decor is purely a matter of personal choice.

    Not everyone likes bright primary colours or indeed country kitchen style wooden beams and such like.

     A neutral so as not to draw focus or add opinion.

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