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Why do people think it's OK to be autistic?

Sickle Moon

I don't feel accepted and supported, I just feel defective, judged by everyone, and guilty for what I've done to my family. I know we're all entitled to our opinions and feelings, and that we all think differently, but I just really don't understand why some autistic people 'celebrate' it and think it's OK to be autistic when I honestly don't think there is anything less OK in the entire world, particularly when you're a woman and it's such a man's condition. I often feel my strong sense of identity as a female is being stolen from me.

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  • Sickle Moon said:
    I'm not in a relationship but I want to have a child as that would be proof I'm a woman, and no one can take that from me.

    Wouldn't simply being loved by someone of the opposite sex (if you are heterosexual, which I assume you are) be enough to prove that you are a woman?

    Sickle Moon said:
    My own child would love me, too, and of course I'd love my child.

    These aren't givens.  Parenthood can be extremely difficult and taxing even with two parents.  I'm sorry if this sounds patronising and paternalistic, but please take time to think through all the implications of what you are proposing.  You should want to have a baby because you want to have a baby, not because you want to prove you are a woman.  As others have said, too, don't presuppose that the father won't want to find out.  Or that the child won't eventually want to find out about the father.  Those questions can be very difficult to handle when they come, take it from me.  And children can so easily get stigmatised.  And as autistic people, we all know what stigma can feel like.

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  • Sickle Moon said:
    I'm not in a relationship but I want to have a child as that would be proof I'm a woman, and no one can take that from me.

    Wouldn't simply being loved by someone of the opposite sex (if you are heterosexual, which I assume you are) be enough to prove that you are a woman?

    Sickle Moon said:
    My own child would love me, too, and of course I'd love my child.

    These aren't givens.  Parenthood can be extremely difficult and taxing even with two parents.  I'm sorry if this sounds patronising and paternalistic, but please take time to think through all the implications of what you are proposing.  You should want to have a baby because you want to have a baby, not because you want to prove you are a woman.  As others have said, too, don't presuppose that the father won't want to find out.  Or that the child won't eventually want to find out about the father.  Those questions can be very difficult to handle when they come, take it from me.  And children can so easily get stigmatised.  And as autistic people, we all know what stigma can feel like.

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