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Why do people think it's OK to be autistic?

Sickle Moon

I don't feel accepted and supported, I just feel defective, judged by everyone, and guilty for what I've done to my family. I know we're all entitled to our opinions and feelings, and that we all think differently, but I just really don't understand why some autistic people 'celebrate' it and think it's OK to be autistic when I honestly don't think there is anything less OK in the entire world, particularly when you're a woman and it's such a man's condition. I often feel my strong sense of identity as a female is being stolen from me.

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  • There are always people who will put barriers in someone's way.  And there are always those who are affected by being exactly who they are.

    We are all affected by autism in different ways.  But whatever way we are affected it is nothing to be ashamed of.  We are who we are.

    I cannot even pretend to think I haven't had problems.  But most of my problems are caused by others putting barriers in my way.  The fact that I might think differently even if this causes others no harm.  The fact that I do things in my own way, even if this does not matter at all to other people..  The fact that others want to control me.  That they make judgements based on my inability to socially interract on occasions.  The fact that I may totally misunderstand what they have had.  The fact that there is often a delayed comprehension of things.  The fact I can get so engrossed about what I am doing that I don't realise what the time is or appear to be ignoring them.  The fact that I can be upset by the confusion and busy-ness of everyday life.

    These are all things that are, in nearly all circumstances, of no concern to other people.  But these judgements can make it difficult to be appreciated or accepted, to have one's knowledge and experience be ignored, prevent one getting a job, and stop one being a 'member' of 'normal society'.

    It is OK to be autistic.  Sometimes help may be needed, but mostly it is a question of acceptance and understanding being needed by others.  I can function perfectly well, do not commit crimes, and am quite capable of working out most problems of life.  Yet the way society is structured, there are always likely to be problems.

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  • There are always people who will put barriers in someone's way.  And there are always those who are affected by being exactly who they are.

    We are all affected by autism in different ways.  But whatever way we are affected it is nothing to be ashamed of.  We are who we are.

    I cannot even pretend to think I haven't had problems.  But most of my problems are caused by others putting barriers in my way.  The fact that I might think differently even if this causes others no harm.  The fact that I do things in my own way, even if this does not matter at all to other people..  The fact that others want to control me.  That they make judgements based on my inability to socially interract on occasions.  The fact that I may totally misunderstand what they have had.  The fact that there is often a delayed comprehension of things.  The fact I can get so engrossed about what I am doing that I don't realise what the time is or appear to be ignoring them.  The fact that I can be upset by the confusion and busy-ness of everyday life.

    These are all things that are, in nearly all circumstances, of no concern to other people.  But these judgements can make it difficult to be appreciated or accepted, to have one's knowledge and experience be ignored, prevent one getting a job, and stop one being a 'member' of 'normal society'.

    It is OK to be autistic.  Sometimes help may be needed, but mostly it is a question of acceptance and understanding being needed by others.  I can function perfectly well, do not commit crimes, and am quite capable of working out most problems of life.  Yet the way society is structured, there are always likely to be problems.

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