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Why do people think it's OK to be autistic?

Sickle Moon

I don't feel accepted and supported, I just feel defective, judged by everyone, and guilty for what I've done to my family. I know we're all entitled to our opinions and feelings, and that we all think differently, but I just really don't understand why some autistic people 'celebrate' it and think it's OK to be autistic when I honestly don't think there is anything less OK in the entire world, particularly when you're a woman and it's such a man's condition. I often feel my strong sense of identity as a female is being stolen from me.

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  • Why is it a mans things? I don't go as far as to say I am better for " having "it" " and i don't think of "it" as something I "have" just part of who I am which is more different from others than I am expected to be. However the more i look at the bad qualities in people I find that they are strictly NT qualities. I think the ideal person is a balance of NT and autism.

  • in reply to photonic_electrons

    Do you mind being different? And it's a man's thing because everyone thinks of it as a man's thing. There are still people who don't think autistic girls exist. Also, women are meant to be more empathic and loving. I love being female and I value being female so much; I'm sitting here sobbing thinking of all this diagnosis has taken from me and how it doesn't let me be a woman.

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  • in reply to photonic_electrons

    Do you mind being different? And it's a man's thing because everyone thinks of it as a man's thing. There are still people who don't think autistic girls exist. Also, women are meant to be more empathic and loving. I love being female and I value being female so much; I'm sitting here sobbing thinking of all this diagnosis has taken from me and how it doesn't let me be a woman.

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  • in reply to Eccentric1

    Nice phrase Foxtrot Oscar Hahaha! I will have to make use of that.

  • in reply to Sickle Moon

    Hold on a minute, everyone is unique and before you were diagnosed you were OK but now you are not.  You have unique talents that are strengths and just look at the diagnosis as one piece in the journey through life.  

    Not every man/woman has empathy, some struggle to show/demonstrate love/care but that is how they are.  With our condition too we can take things literally, to heart, personally, guilty and put themselves down.  

    I felt guilty for letting the Bullying Damagement make me a mental "basket case" but I now know I have the strength to stand tall and know I can change their world.

    My philosophy has always been take me as I am or Foxtrot Oscar.

    Take some baby steps, do what you enjoy and do best and build your confidence back up because with.without that piece of paper (Diagnosis) you are still the same person.

  • in reply to Sickle Moon

    i have no choice. I accept who I am, there is no point in denying it, it will just cause me more grief. Fortunately while i am limited in some ways i am very intelligent so that makes up for some of my difficulties.

    People have different opinions and opinions on health matters and in particular so called mental dissabilities can be very out of date. Basically we have known what asperges for as long as I have been alive. Aspergers was established as a thing in 1983, information about my condition would never have reached my teachers in time to do me any good. I expect that at first only boys were diagnosed leaving girls to have a harder time as they struggled so it initially became known as a boys thing and that has stuck with people as more boys are identified but I think the actual spread is probably even.