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Working out what you need after a life of suppressing

Fast_and_the_curious

Hi everyone, I thought I'd make a thread on how you started to discover what you really needed after getting a diagnosis or realising you are autistic.

For me, I feel like the last 6 weeks since my therapist suggested autism I have been getting "more" autistic and noticing things that I never noticed bothering me before. I have been reassuring myself I'm not crazy, not making it up, but simply allowing myself to really see what bothers me instead of dismissing the cause as ridiculous, because NT's don't seem to be bothered by it. 

Did any of you experience this? How did you deal with it? 

And further, how did you start to identify and address issues? Did you have to practice allowing yourself to stim? Did you start to work on undoing some of the "passing" behaviours you've developed? Or did you keep them? I think a lot of my anxiety issues are from suppressing the urge to do things that help me, or leave situations that stress me, but I'm not sure if I am making things worse by now allowing myself to leave instead of sticking a situation out. 

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  • ...I NEED (or at least other people to appreciate) that I am ME, I am HUMAN, and to be more tolerant. I do not fit into THEIR standards but I am a pretty ok human and a very small threat to others :)

    Like any human I can align my needs to Maslow's hierarchy 

    The bottom two elements are described as "basic needs" - I have my basic physiological needs met, but not all my safety needs and many on the spectrum suffer from poor health and fluctuating employment/other income means.

    Love and belonging is there with friends, not with family and there is no sense of connection with the wider community and society.  Esteem is low due to the essential aspects of love and belonging, safety and core physiological needs not being met fully.

    below is a link to Maslows hierarchy against an ASD framework

    https://digitalcommons.liberty.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=2289&context=doctoral

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  • ...I NEED (or at least other people to appreciate) that I am ME, I am HUMAN, and to be more tolerant. I do not fit into THEIR standards but I am a pretty ok human and a very small threat to others :)

    Like any human I can align my needs to Maslow's hierarchy 

    The bottom two elements are described as "basic needs" - I have my basic physiological needs met, but not all my safety needs and many on the spectrum suffer from poor health and fluctuating employment/other income means.

    Love and belonging is there with friends, not with family and there is no sense of connection with the wider community and society.  Esteem is low due to the essential aspects of love and belonging, safety and core physiological needs not being met fully.

    below is a link to Maslows hierarchy against an ASD framework

    https://digitalcommons.liberty.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=2289&context=doctoral

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