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Racism?

Roswell

I often find people look at me with suspicion or wariness when I look at them. I've noticed this doesn't happen to other people as much. I also sometimes get stared at if I go into a bar or on a bus.

I'm half-Jewish and in my family the genetics didn't go into my siblings and mother as much. I have more olive, dark skin and very Jewish looking hazy eyes.

Something that makes me wonder if it's racism is I've met two Spanish people recently and one Portuguese person and they were all really friendly with me, and of course, they have more olive coloured skin in those countries. 

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  • Often we can think things are happening more to us than others. I don't want to undermine or belittle your problems, they are very real to you and you may be subject to abuse, but perhaps you would allow me to say one or two things.

    First no one has to like everyone or even anyone.  There are many people, of all races, religions, beliefs, disabilities, ages, sexes and genders with whom I get on very well. There are also those whom I dislike intensely, some of whom may have done nothing inherently wrong to me.

    Second, we tend to notice certain things when we are affected by them ourselves or they are close to us. When I was subject to a life-changing condition (not autism I may add),  every television programme and news item seemed to be about that condition, from Casualty to Coronation Street, to the Ten o'clock news and every documentary, and every quiz programme seemed to feature a contestant with that condition. It was not that suddenly more programmes.were.discussing this it was just I noticed it more readily.

    And thirdly, if like me you are autistic, there are certain characteristics that make some folk think you are staring at them in a strange way, whether or not it is true or not.  Yes it is not nice when they take umbridge at you doing that, and they do not understand why you are doing it so it makes them feel disconcerted.  This is down to education that some people are autistic and do not realise what they are doing.  Life can be an uncomfortable journey.

    There will always be bigots who make crass remarks and are objectionable, whether they are doing it on grounds of race or not.

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  • Often we can think things are happening more to us than others. I don't want to undermine or belittle your problems, they are very real to you and you may be subject to abuse, but perhaps you would allow me to say one or two things.

    First no one has to like everyone or even anyone.  There are many people, of all races, religions, beliefs, disabilities, ages, sexes and genders with whom I get on very well. There are also those whom I dislike intensely, some of whom may have done nothing inherently wrong to me.

    Second, we tend to notice certain things when we are affected by them ourselves or they are close to us. When I was subject to a life-changing condition (not autism I may add),  every television programme and news item seemed to be about that condition, from Casualty to Coronation Street, to the Ten o'clock news and every documentary, and every quiz programme seemed to feature a contestant with that condition. It was not that suddenly more programmes.were.discussing this it was just I noticed it more readily.

    And thirdly, if like me you are autistic, there are certain characteristics that make some folk think you are staring at them in a strange way, whether or not it is true or not.  Yes it is not nice when they take umbridge at you doing that, and they do not understand why you are doing it so it makes them feel disconcerted.  This is down to education that some people are autistic and do not realise what they are doing.  Life can be an uncomfortable journey.

    There will always be bigots who make crass remarks and are objectionable, whether they are doing it on grounds of race or not.

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