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Another diagnosis-related question

I'm done with Christmas Cards

Sorry to keep going on about my diagnosis appointment!

One of the other things on my mind is when we were talking about one of my daughters getting angry and how I noticed that she was angry. I described how she was sitting very still, not talking, but like a volcano about to erupt. My interviewer asked "And you could pick up on that?" in a way that sounded to me like "Nah, you're not on the spectrum!".

There were a few moments like this - but maybe she was just digging to make sure.

Thoughts?

(Yes I know I need to forget it and move on and not worry! :-) )

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  • I notice volcanic people sometimes because I know the feeling very well myself! I also grew up with a volcanic range (my family). However, I seem to miss when many other people get annoyed. I notice the non verbal better than facial expressions, tone of voice, sarcasm etc. However, everyone is different, even with ASD. I do find people have stereotypes in mind when autism is mentioned. Not helpful. For myself, i needed to know why I had/have specific difficulties functioning in this world. Now I know why, i can address what I can adapt and accept what I can’t. Being diagnosed was more about specialists etc being able to accept me than about me actually wanting yet another label. To access any level of support at all I had to be categorised. Until then I was either mentally ill or a pain in the caboose!! (In their minds). In my mind, I was just a total waste of space. Now I can move on. I hope you get to feel similar. One other thing has struck me .... some of us read atmospheres when we enter a room or meet people. Again it’s the non verbal stuff. So don’t worry too much. Maybe your assessor was someone who doesn’t do that, so maybe she was surprised. Who knows? One thing I cannot do is telepathy!!! 

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  • I notice volcanic people sometimes because I know the feeling very well myself! I also grew up with a volcanic range (my family). However, I seem to miss when many other people get annoyed. I notice the non verbal better than facial expressions, tone of voice, sarcasm etc. However, everyone is different, even with ASD. I do find people have stereotypes in mind when autism is mentioned. Not helpful. For myself, i needed to know why I had/have specific difficulties functioning in this world. Now I know why, i can address what I can adapt and accept what I can’t. Being diagnosed was more about specialists etc being able to accept me than about me actually wanting yet another label. To access any level of support at all I had to be categorised. Until then I was either mentally ill or a pain in the caboose!! (In their minds). In my mind, I was just a total waste of space. Now I can move on. I hope you get to feel similar. One other thing has struck me .... some of us read atmospheres when we enter a room or meet people. Again it’s the non verbal stuff. So don’t worry too much. Maybe your assessor was someone who doesn’t do that, so maybe she was surprised. Who knows? One thing I cannot do is telepathy!!! 

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