some one help me here please

hi i am a mum of 3 boys and one is 9 asd adhd the other is adhd ?asd the youngest is deaf maight be a good thing in my horrible house hold na love him realy 

well the story goes i awaiting on a waiting list for oldest to be dignosed with no help. Me on the other hand has been told i have adhd and autism but no dignoses i realy need help where do i go i need closer i driving my self nuts any help please