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Curious if I’m the only one

Whats-His-Face

I was wondering if anyone else shares this with me. I like loud noises I.e. loud music, loud tv, loud gaming or I make random loud noises when on my own lol. But I only like them in singular form, what I mean is if I’m in a room and there is music and talking and children crying I can’t handle it and don’t like it or in a restaurant I can’t focus on a conversation as I kind of hear everything. Anyone else like this? 

I also experienced something the other day I don’t think I have before, was driving in heavy traffic, requiring a lot of concentration and I had just picked my wife up from work. She’s had a hectic day and had a lot to tell me, well every word she was saying was hurting my ears and I wanted her to stop talking lol. 

  • in reply to Whats-His-Face

    Thanks Jason and yes same here. I can cope with multiple conversations for a short while or if I’m especially motivated to. I can also zone out if I’m reading or writing but it’s not always easy to get under conscious control. If I resent being somewhere, I can’t cope with anything but silence!

  • in reply to I'm done with Christmas Cards

    I love the way you have explained it and I think I relate. With me what’s strange though is it doesn’t always affect me. Like I can play Xbox whilst in a party with someone with no issues or be in a pub with no issues whatsoever. I think it’s because of what I’ve stated in my other comment. I find if my brain is focused on what’s going on I’m fine but if I’m overthinking I.e. in social situations ‘they don’t like me’ ‘how can I join in on this conversation” etc that’s when it manifests. 

    Ive also realised I’m quite gd at withdrawing sometimes when out in the real world, I kind of space out and have no issues at all, well apart from taking instruction in a work invironment, within five minutes I’ve forgotten what I was told to do lol.  

  • Yay I’m not the only one, being newly diagnosed I’d assumed that it was a clear cut “I’m sensitive to sound” sort of thing so was a bit confused with the fact that it’s not always an issue for me. I think sometimes if my brain is in a gd state I don’t experience issues at all but if I’m not in a gd way and I’m thinking on a lot or my anxieties are present, it’s then that these issues are present. 

    I really like the band idea and may consider doing it myself.

  • Just adding a second reply because this is off on a different tangent & may interest anyone on this thread - have you seen the TV Series "Doc Martin"?

    He has a very amusing and relatable habit when he's treating a patient, thinking, and there are conversations going on; he simply says firmly "Stop talking!".

  • 100% on the nose.

    I figured this out myself when my family said "If you're so sensitive to sounds, how come you can turn the HiFi up so loud that we all have to leave the room?" (I built myself a subwoofer and test it with trance / pop music!).

    The answer I came to is this; my ears are pretty much like everyone else's. Where I'm different is how my brain processes the *information content* / *meaning* of the sound. It can only do this comfortably with one coherent stream of audible information at a time. Music, whilst it may contain many sounds from many instruments, makes sense as a whole as a coherent *single* stream of info. A single conversation likewise. But *competing* incoherent information streams, e.g. someone having a conversation over the top of dialogue on the TV are a big no-no for me & *I* have to leave the room. Likewise conversations over music or background noise.

    I also can't stand whispering, because my brain can't help but *try* to tune in, and it hurts (similar to how it will *try* to tune in to multiple conversations).

    I also get what you mean about driving; I'm and advanced driver and I verbalise my driving plan internally ("Plan A is to merge after the blue Volvo, plan B is before the grey van") and a passenger talking, especially if it's about abstract concepts that require visualisation (e.g. who is both the brother of aunty Flo's cousin and the friend of Julie) can't be processed alongside driving.

    It's also like my brain has a circuit breaker; if there is too much going on, it simply shuts off and focusses on *nothing* - this is bad when driving!

    By the way it was repeatedly experiencing aural hell in TGI Fridays and on one occasion driving away from there literally like a "Bat out of Hell" that was one of the key things that led me to my self diagnosis.