My son has been diagnosed with autism. The school has been very supportive and I'm very happy that we live in a time when autism is recognised. I've come to recognise many of the features autism in myself. I'm awaiting a diagnosis, although I know enough now to firmly believe myself autistic. Although my childhood was difficult, I'm a reasonably functional adult. I hold down a good job, attend social events, maintain a few friendships, have two beautiful children and have been married (three times).
However, I've begun to reflect on some of the strategies I have developed to manage my life. They have allowed me to be functional in as much as I have a successful career, have maintained a relationship with a beautiful and caring partner for six years, I have a few friends and can cope with social situations. However, I'm starting to understand that many of the problems in my life are a result of the strategies I have developed to overcome autism - reoccurring depression, drug/alcohol abuse and repeated relationship breakdowns. The insight has been very helpful in starting to address some of my own issues.
My current partner is a wonderful caring and supportive women. It's the closest relationship I have ever had. However, like all the previous women in my life she complains about my not listening to her, my thoughtlessness, emotional distance and lack of communication. She sometimes complains she feels unsupported or lonely. We've talked about it, and she is empathetic and compassionate towards me. However to understand her needs, or address the issues. We both love each other very much and are committed to making the relationship work. I want to provide the support she needs. I worry that eventually the frustrations will lead to our relationship breaking down as my previous marriages have.
I've begun to work on myself in various ways, but I'd like to understand more about the experiences of those in successful (ASD/non-ASD) relationships.