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working alongside people in group work

KOsgood4

Currently mid-way through an assignment at Uni. Group work of 3 people (including myself) where we have a deadline for the 17th. Obviously with the Christmas break, we couldn't get any of the work done (its editing, I've been assigned editor for a re-cut) there was some issues before the Christmas period which was resolved, my part was done and the other 2 members have been assigned roles for 'Sound' & 'Graphics'. I ain't back to the 7th, but on the 3rd a member of the group msgs me to say there's an issue and it needs sorting out asap, which I say I'll get it sorted when I get back there on the 7th. He then goes on to say that i have 'very little care' for the project, that they can't keep on waiting for me to get it sorted, that he's gone ahead and done his own edit as a backup. I won't say too much about how the conversation wait, but in a way, this person makes it out that I'm the bad person who's going to cause bad grades for the assignment. I've always had issues in group work in the past, I have never been in a group with another person with Autism, so my past group members have always found it hard to understand me, accept me and make bad assumptions about me that I've done something wrong, when I try my very best to not make mistakes in my work. I've always worked better independently. Has anyone ever had similar experiences with group members? 

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    What is is that the insurance dog says?  "OOOOOOoooohhhhhhh yyyyyyyyeeeeeeeessssss!"   It may differ for different people but these are some areas here I've had problems:

    * If I've decided I'm going to do something I tend to be fairly perfectionist about it.  That doesn't play well with most NTs who seem to abhor such things and can't be bothered.

    * I often find myself suffering from "imposter syndrome" where I feel what I've done may not be good enough.  The previous item often tends to make this somewhat fallacious but it doesn't make the feeling of thinking I'm not good enough go away,

    * I have ways of doing things that I know work for me, and if I do things in that way I can usually get good results (assuming it's something I'm interested in).  A lot (most?) other people however seem not to like to work the way I do  (see item 1), and prefer to work another way.  I won't cast aspersions about right or wrong, but often the way they want to work doesn't work for me.

    Often I find myself thinking it'd be quicker and better to throw the other people in a skip and just everything myself.  That doesn't tend to be an overly scaleable solution however.

    I would say however that it's very much dependent on the people.  My preferred method of working is collaborative with the right people, because I think the checks and balances and different ways of looking at things can produce a better outcome.  I've worked in several groups over the years where that worked out, although it has been fairly rare. 

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  • Former Member
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    What is is that the insurance dog says?  "OOOOOOoooohhhhhhh yyyyyyyyeeeeeeeessssss!"   It may differ for different people but these are some areas here I've had problems:

    * If I've decided I'm going to do something I tend to be fairly perfectionist about it.  That doesn't play well with most NTs who seem to abhor such things and can't be bothered.

    * I often find myself suffering from "imposter syndrome" where I feel what I've done may not be good enough.  The previous item often tends to make this somewhat fallacious but it doesn't make the feeling of thinking I'm not good enough go away,

    * I have ways of doing things that I know work for me, and if I do things in that way I can usually get good results (assuming it's something I'm interested in).  A lot (most?) other people however seem not to like to work the way I do  (see item 1), and prefer to work another way.  I won't cast aspersions about right or wrong, but often the way they want to work doesn't work for me.

    Often I find myself thinking it'd be quicker and better to throw the other people in a skip and just everything myself.  That doesn't tend to be an overly scaleable solution however.

    I would say however that it's very much dependent on the people.  My preferred method of working is collaborative with the right people, because I think the checks and balances and different ways of looking at things can produce a better outcome.  I've worked in several groups over the years where that worked out, although it has been fairly rare. 

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