Finding employment

So, 2019 really does need to be the year I get a job, for the sake of family finances. My husband's approach to "helping" me is to just tell me to "apply for something close to home that you know you can do".

I haven't worked for about 14 years after being signed off sick from my first full time job after just 3 months there and then I got married and we decided to start a family as my job hunting post sign-off was not working out due to my recent medical history. I was initially diagnosed with CFS when first signed off and had nearly 3 years off work while recovering before job hunting again.
I have been involved in long term voluntary roles for most of the last 13 years though so I hope that will count for something.

I was finally given my formal ASC Aspergers diagnosis on the 7th Dec. But I am now unsure how to proceed in terms of finding a job that will take my needs into account. I can see how autism has shaped all my previous education, work and general life experiences and I am very aware of the adjustments i will need to be able to work at my best and without burning out.

Does anyone relate to my current feeling that if I start job hunting at the moment and find something that might work out I still very unsupported by my husband and those around me. I feel like I will be stepping off a building to do an abseil (applying for a job and hopefully getting through an interview) but I don't know if the harness and rope (my husband and family and friends that I am asking for help and support from) is even going to be any use and I may just end up plummeting to the ground (I will get a job offer but end up rejected or get a job but end up burning out due to those around me not appreciating just how much help and support I need.).
I already feel bad that I seem to need more support and assurance from others than they seem to think I need...and so I inconvenience them or get in the way of the things that want to get on with.
I am feeling so lost about it all and can't seem to make myself understood.